Long distance? Or just scarcity?

comment: Your advice seems the best out there. After buying David D's and Mystery, I found you focus the best on inner game. You deal best with real situations. I been literally broke (i owe parents money), since finding your podcasts. But I will look into buying your products soon like February.

My question is over long-distance relationships. You said they don't work. Why? I have been talking to a girl over long distance for over 4 months. For the longest time I thought it wouldn't last, but it has. We had only spent 2 days prior to that together. She has told me I love you, which I later reciprocated. I do need to work on spicing it up with cocky returns which your last email mentioned. I like this girl, but know I must not let it get to my head. Recently I have been boring and too nice. So I will fix that.

My other question is how does one respond to this over the phone or aim, "what else will I get from you other than a massage when we see each other?" It seems cocky funny is a good response, but it can't be used all the time. I think. How do I and should I give hints of what I'd do? Hopefully I will see this in a future newsletter.

Peace,
Reb
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CARLOS:

Well, LDRs (Long Distance Relationships) can work, but it all depends on how you define "work."

Look, there are some realities you cannot overlook:

1) If you are not seeing a person regularly, both quantity and quality, you are not getting the REAL picture of what she's like. Isolated get-togethers are not a good way to get to know someone - if you're looking for something longer-term. But if you're only looking for the short term, that could suit you just fine.

2) Being far away from someone SIMULATES excitement and desire to your nervous system, just because you cannot just go over and watch a movie with her, or get together whenever you want.

Take it from a guy who's been there - unless you already have a bunch of girls in your vicinity that you can date, you have no business going after ones that are further away.

It's scarcity thinking of the worst kind.

As for your second question, just have her tell you what SHE would want. Don't answer unless she satisfies your needs:

"What's in it for me, honey? Here, I'll give you a challenge. Write me an essay on 'what I want you to do with me after you're done with the massage.' I'm not saying it will come true, but I'll definitely consider it... :)"

Get creative... but don't get obsessed.

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Get more success with women by closing effectively...

Carlos, - I have a quick question for you - there is this girl I have met and like, and while at college, we get on really well, - she said to ring her at the weekend and see if she wanted to do anything, - so I did and got a lame excuse about her forgetting, and agreeing to meet a friend -

Now dont get me wrong, I get on with women well, abut the main problem I have is getting them to meet up outside of places like college & work and I have tried different approaches, so I was hoping you would have some fail-proof ways of getting them to want to.- any tips would be much appreciated. - cheers mate .

Michael, UK
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CARLOS:

I get a lot of emails from guys that want me to be clear that they are "doing just fine" with women, except for this ONE sticking point.

Well, assuming this is true, you have a situation that is not that hard to fix.

The first step is to STOP looking for foolproof solutions.

THERE ARE NONE!

Trust me, I've tried them ALL, and the one sure thing you have to realize is that there are no sure things.

Except one: If you're authentic and true to yourself, and if you act from a core of compassionate POWER (masculine, dominant, leader) you will have more overall success than you know what to do with.

So stop looking to avoid risk and the possibility of failure. Only losers spend all their energy trying to avoid the possibility of failing.

Read that last line again.

Next step: Start being more clear and assertive with women when you first meet them. This girl flaked on you like this because you didn't really cement in the good feeling and fun, and then you probably failed to start it back up when you talked on the phone.

Reasonably sane women will not refuse a date with someone they think is fun and cool.

You need to lock in a more vibrant air about you, and close her more definitely when you've got the good vibes going. Don't leave it so vague the next time. You need to make a statement that shows your interest in her at some point so she isn't left with an empty feeling of "failure to launch."

I hear some contradiction in your email that I want to point out. You say you "get on with women well," but you're not getting results. I suggest you re-evaluate your definition of "get on well." Perhaps you're getting good energy on the first meeting, but you're lacking in the ability to close successfully.

I'm not always so clear on the reality of the situations guys write in about because there are a lot of guys who delude themselves as to their real level of success with women. The reality is that most guys DO NOT get what they want from their interactions and relationships with women.

Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Single Guy. It's called EDUCATION.

If you could learn secrets to attract women, would you? Can you see past your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?

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