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Carlos!

Thanks so much for your advice [The Dating Black Book]! I feel myself changing and molding into a better self. I bring confidence to the table not only at dates, bars, parties, but also at work. People see that I mean business and that I'm on my own path to personal greatness. I'm coming into a promotion very soon and also getting random job offers! People see the passion!

Do you have any hints on what I should put up as an away message on my AIM? I go out quite a bit and I do know women that I know personally that check my away message. Usually I put "Out..." or "A night out on the town ;)" (with one of those winks @ the end)

Also, I live in an apartment complex and was wondering if it's a good idea to start dating a neighbor?

Thanks so much!
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:

That's what I'm talking about!

PASSION!

That's the fuel for an Alpha Man's life. If you just embrace these concepts, you'll create a lifestyle that other men will envy.

Your question about the AIM "away" message is interesting. You see, I've never thought of these things in terms of what will get a certain response, but only in the message I want to communicate to women. I want them to know that:

A) I'm moving forward in life. I've got goals and purpose.

B) I don't NEED women. I want them, but I don't need them.

C) I'm one fun motherf*cker to be with

By operating on the basis of acting on principle rather than results, I stop chasing the carrot. I don't alter my path to get something. I know that even if I don't get what I would have liked from the interaction, I will learn, I will be sticking to my beliefs and values, and I will not be sacrificing integrity.

But you don't want a lecture on my philosophy, you just want to know what to say, right?

Here's what *I* would say:

"Gone out to find adventure in the REAL world... Back when I need a rest..."

"Life's an adventure... what are you doing in front of your computer?"

"I'm out having fun ... why aren't you with me?"

"Sorry, too busy to haunt my computer and geek out... Come out and play!"

Do I say this to GET a certain reaction? No. This is how I REALLY feel.

People talk about "natural" game a lot, and that's the essence of what I teach, but I also add in so much more. This is REAL Game, the ability to be real with a woman, AND attract her.

If you want to learn more about this concept, I suggest you learn about REAL GAME here...

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