What makes a guy a "player?"

Just wanted to pass this on to you.
I asked a girl I met online about what makes a guy a player.

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Me - What makes a guy a player in your mind?

HER - I think guys become players because they got hurt when they gave someone their all. they were so in love with a woman that they did any and everything to keep her but she did him wrong anyway. so now he has issues with trusting women and stays away from serious relationships because he doesn't want to be hurt again.

Me - What I really wanted to know is what makes a guy a player.

HER - ohhh. okay. well if a guy has alot of women that would make him a player in my opinion... also he intentionally misleads women and manipulates them. Women deal with emotions and any guy who plays games with a womans heart is a player to me...

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Any comments?
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:

Women typically define men this way. What they won't tell you is that she won't call him a player if he's just got a lot of women in his life. He's only a player when she doesn't think she can trust him.

In other words, this label is used to manipulate men to behave monogamously, even when it is not desirable or necessary for him to behave this way. She wants a man that other women want. But she won't trust him if he doesn't achieve the right level of rapport and connection with her.

She is right that women deal in emotions, and I like her statement that a man that "plays" games with her heart is a player. This is much more accurate a definition. That's what she fears.

If you've read The Dating Black Book, you'll know how to handle this situation with a woman...

You don't want to give off that "player" vibe. And you can learn how HERE...

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