The phone rules...

I have known this girl for a little over a week. We've gotten pretty close and a little physical. But I was just wondering about how I should call her.

I know the rules for calling a girl that you just met: waiting a couple days before calling, only calling once or twice a week, and keeping the conversation limited. But what are the rules for talking to a girl that you're kind of close to but not dating.

Should I call her every day or every other day and how long should I talk to her?

Thanks,
T in VA
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:

The rule is really "Do what makes the most sense..."

Remember my new mantra:

Act according to principle, not for manipulation.

In other words, you do what's right because it comes from confidence and character rather than a desired result.

The reality of the Alpha Man is that he's got too much going on to be too concerned about any single woman, until she has proven herself a keeper. (And, my friend, after one week, this woman is still a big MAYBE.)

He's so caught up in his own life and lifestyle that he doesn't really have the time to worry about calling her. In fact, he will occasionally get so caught up in his own busy lifestyle, passions, and goals that he forgets to call her.

Imagine that!

Right now, you're on the other side of this concept, where you don't quite have the Alpha mindset and the lifestyle, but you're trying to emulate it as best you can to get the best results. Hey, nothing wrong with that. That's how you learn this game.

My suggestion is this: Call her when you want to setup a time to get together with her. Don't get into long aching conversations about your childhoods on the phone. The phone is simply a tool - a connector to get you from this date to the next one. It is NOT about forging a relationship.

She needs to be totally jones-ing for your presence, like a drug addict that is aching for a fix. By calling her, you take the edge off it and she gets to feel less attraction.

Your first question should always be this: What is the right thing to do from principle?

Then ask yourself: Does this drive up her attraction for me, or lower it?

If you really think that out, you'll get the answer.

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