The right way to escalate with women - and how to salvage it...

Hi Carlos,
I've heard you before on David DeAngelo's CDs and I'm an avid martial artist myself so I was fascinated that you trained at the authentic Shaolin Temple in China - must've been incredible.

I believe I already have the qualities that an Alpha Male possesses - I just feel that I either need more of a method or system to make my success with women more consistent.
I recently had this georgeous girl cut my hair and I was amazed at how aggressiveley she was hitting on me. Unless I'm crazy, she was dropping some serious IOIs. I called her to go for drinks and it just never materialized. She didn't return my calls.
This was close to 2 weeks ago. I really thought there was a strong immediate attraction between the two of us. I don't want to call again because I don't want to look needy or desperate.
Should I just move on to the next one? Is there any way to salvage the situation?
Best always,
D.R.
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CARLOS:
Well, first off, thanks about the Shaolin Temple recognition. Yes, it was about as cool as it gets, especially for a Martial Artist.
Now you said something very interesting that struck me, and I think you should be aware of it, too. You said: "I just feel that I either need more of a method or system to make my success with women more consistent."
It's not really a 'method' or 'system' you need, but the SELF-DISCIPLINE to actually BE consistent.
But, you do need the three primary areas handled to really build attraction quickly with women:
1) Inner Game
2) Motivation
3) Outer Game
Inner game is your confidence, your sense of self-esteem.
Motivation is your ability to control yourself enough to do what you should and avoid what you should not.
Outer Game is the external realization of your inner game and the motivation.
I explain this much more completely in my Alpha Immersion program, but suffice to say, your situation is confusing you unnecessarily.
You see, a lot of guys think that if they just get this magic bullet, they'll be able to have ANY woman they want. It doesn't work this way.

You did all the right things, and NO, you weren't mistaken; she was probably very into you.

I believe that the reason this never came together for you was because it flowed a bit like this:

1) She responded to your using your Alpha Man strategies the way she only could - with attraction.
STRONG attraction.

2) Her response to you did not raise your attraction for her. In fact, you relaxed a bit, figuring "Eh, I don't have to work that hard for this one. (This is a natural male reaction to a lack of challenge. This is why we need women to be a little aloof; it raises our Alpha fur and gets us going...) It's VERY subtle, and you probably didn't notice it until she failed to respond back to you.

3) Your lack of enthusiasm was sensed, and she backed off again to feel that sense of being pursued. Once the initial attraction is started, it rapidly cools.

4) Since some time elapsed between that initial contact and the time you called, she had time to cool off even more.

Next time, you escalate while the iron is still hot.

When a car salesman has you all excited and ready to go, does he ever say, "I'll give you a call next week and you can sign the papers to take this baby home."

No no no.

He puts a pen in front of you with the contract and says, "Let's get you driving home in that sweet little car tonight..."

So don't settle for phone numbers when she's ready to buy. Put her in the luxurious and sweet leather of your Alpha-mobile right away. Get the date right there.

So can you salvage it? Maybe.

Your next step is to call her until you reach her - every couple days or so. Or just go back to the place you got your hair cut and set a date right there for after work. Remind her about how funny and fun you are, and then seal the deal.

Be assertive.

Be the Alpha Man.

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