Uh-oh... He's got the hots for a woman that could take him down...

First of all I would like to thank you Carlos for a very well written and insightful system, I have been learning alot and gathering lots of knowlage from it. But, still I'm in a bit of a jam...

I have been getting to know one of my senseis at my dojo she is really cute, anyway I had been getting a vibe off of her, but I have been kind of hesitant to act on it. Last week she gave me her number out of nowere and asked me a couple of times to go to church with her, I said yes and hung out a while with her and her freinds.

Another thing is that she has a boyfriend, but I never see him around and she dosen't talk about him much. I've been trying to ignore her a bit or when I talk to her its quick and to the point, with a little playful teasing. I think my playing hard to get is getting her attention a bit.

She has left me a couple of messages on my phone that actually sounded like she was a little nervous, I kind of THINK she likes me, I definitely like her. I don't want to mess this up. I've been trying a few strategies from your system, like teasing, being unavailable, I get to show off a little of my athletic talent around her, she seems to like that. Anyway I'm really attracted to this girl and I don't want to mess things up, she's hot and an olympic gold medalist.

Help me out Carlos. Please!
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CARLOS:

Olympic Gold medalist, huh? Not too shabby.

Dude, after all these signs, if she isn't into you she should be roundhouse kicked in the head. Or maybe you should be.

Keep in mind that boyfriends are often a semi-imagined fixture in most women's lives. They have a guy that buys them dinner, and she gives him occasional nookie to keep him calm and reasonably satiated. Or maybe he doesn't exist and she uses that so that she can control the number of guys that hit on her from the dojo.

Here are the facts for you to focus on:

Number 1: Get rid of the "I don't want to mess this up" attitude. You're acting as if she's your last chance to bump uglies. This is a scarcity mindset and it will mess you up. You can't make an omelette without breaking a few eggs.

Number 2: It still sounds as if you're tentative about how this all works, and even using the strategies I outline in the books and audio. If it's working, you need to feel more confident about it. I hear a lot of "I think" and "maybe" and "seems to" and "sorta" in your language, which leads me to believe that you're not jumping in the pool.

Commitment to moving forward is what defines an Alpha Man, and I suggest you move forward more assertively and definitely.

Number 3: You're using strategies effectively, but now it's time to get REAL with her. Take action and either move this thing forward or bury it in the back yard and move on.

Seriously, if you don't move forward, she's going to lose interest because A) You look like a dumb dude who can't read the signals - which is interpreted as meaning you're not Alpha, or B) You don't appear to be interested because you're not taking any ACTION.

I really can't say this enough, guys - The Alpha Man MUST be the one moving things forward. He must be taking an active role in making things HAPPEN.

None of this sitting back and hoping that it will just move forward all by itself. It won't.

It's up to you, sensei seductor... are you going to make it happen?

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