Men and Marriage...
This question comes from my long-lost blonde girl in Northern Virginia... What's your question, Anne?
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Why do men want to get married so much? I read that, for the first time in human history, the number of SINGLE women is higher than the number of MARRIED women. AND, that 80% of all divorces are initiated by the woman.
As I get older, it seems like men really really want marriage. I'm like "why?".
Unless you're going to have kids, what's the point in marriage? Men seem really really needy as they get older. It's a big turn-off, IMHO. LOL! I mean, sheesh, go out with your friends or something already! All my free time doesn't have to be spent with you. ugh.
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CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
This is a big problem for guys across the board.
To be honest, they're turning into wusses. Confused about their gender role, most guys are turning feminized, and women are also getting masculinized.
80% of women initiate divorces - I believe - because of the following progression:
1) Guy meets girl, they fall in love, get married, yadda yadda.
2) Guy and girl are happy for about 2-3 years (the first "itch" actually happens around year 3 if they have no children...)
3) Guy and girl are tempted, maybe even succumb to the realities of sexual attraction to other people
4) Regardless of their infidelity, the man gets complacent and boring, often deferring all the decisions over to the woman to steer their relation-ship, and she begins to resent it. "Hey! I didn't sign on for this!"
5) As the man's testicles continue to shrink (insert graphically funny cartoon sound of shrinkage here), the woman is definitely looking around at her options.
6) She realizes he's going to continue to wuss out, and she has lost ALL attraction for him.
7) He comes home to an empty house with a divorce lawyer on the answering machine. (I'm reminded of the scene in "True Lies" where one of the guys says, "She even took the ice cube trays. What kind of sick bitch takes the ice cube trays out of the freezer?")
Sad but true, my friends.
The fact is that if guys were more masculine up front, we'd have very little of this problem on the back end. And if they kept their "end up," so to speak, women could feel secure in his masculine strength. When he gives up the ability to lead the relationship (captain at the helm), they're headed for a Titanic ending. (And I don't mean the dream sequence where Rose goes back to the ship to meet up with Jack...)
I think that as guys get older, they are very afraid of being alone, and they also hurry into a marriage to "lock" something in. Women, on the other hand, are quicker to divorce and slower to re-marry. They realize that they don't need men for the same reasons anymore.
I left in your last comment because it is so poignant. Guys do need their own goals and path in life.
I've distilled it down to the 3 "P"s of a man's life (which I may expand to 4 or 5 depending on how clever I get), and you'll hear about them on my Advanced Coaching Program.
The one P that all men must have for women to feel satisfied with them is "PURPOSE."
That's a purpose beyond women. Contrary to popular misconception, women do NOT want to be your sole focus. That's trash from some songwriters who aren't getting laid. (Which is a whole other topic of guys who channel their sexual frustration into art, but let's end this before the sun sets...)
Guys, as I say - and as women are telling us - it's time to...
MAN UP.
Get the Secrets...
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Why do men want to get married so much? I read that, for the first time in human history, the number of SINGLE women is higher than the number of MARRIED women. AND, that 80% of all divorces are initiated by the woman.
As I get older, it seems like men really really want marriage. I'm like "why?".
Unless you're going to have kids, what's the point in marriage? Men seem really really needy as they get older. It's a big turn-off, IMHO. LOL! I mean, sheesh, go out with your friends or something already! All my free time doesn't have to be spent with you. ugh.
_____________________
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
This is a big problem for guys across the board.
To be honest, they're turning into wusses. Confused about their gender role, most guys are turning feminized, and women are also getting masculinized.
80% of women initiate divorces - I believe - because of the following progression:
1) Guy meets girl, they fall in love, get married, yadda yadda.
2) Guy and girl are happy for about 2-3 years (the first "itch" actually happens around year 3 if they have no children...)
3) Guy and girl are tempted, maybe even succumb to the realities of sexual attraction to other people
4) Regardless of their infidelity, the man gets complacent and boring, often deferring all the decisions over to the woman to steer their relation-ship, and she begins to resent it. "Hey! I didn't sign on for this!"
5) As the man's testicles continue to shrink (insert graphically funny cartoon sound of shrinkage here), the woman is definitely looking around at her options.
6) She realizes he's going to continue to wuss out, and she has lost ALL attraction for him.
7) He comes home to an empty house with a divorce lawyer on the answering machine. (I'm reminded of the scene in "True Lies" where one of the guys says, "She even took the ice cube trays. What kind of sick bitch takes the ice cube trays out of the freezer?")
Sad but true, my friends.
The fact is that if guys were more masculine up front, we'd have very little of this problem on the back end. And if they kept their "end up," so to speak, women could feel secure in his masculine strength. When he gives up the ability to lead the relationship (captain at the helm), they're headed for a Titanic ending. (And I don't mean the dream sequence where Rose goes back to the ship to meet up with Jack...)
I think that as guys get older, they are very afraid of being alone, and they also hurry into a marriage to "lock" something in. Women, on the other hand, are quicker to divorce and slower to re-marry. They realize that they don't need men for the same reasons anymore.
I left in your last comment because it is so poignant. Guys do need their own goals and path in life.
I've distilled it down to the 3 "P"s of a man's life (which I may expand to 4 or 5 depending on how clever I get), and you'll hear about them on my Advanced Coaching Program.
The one P that all men must have for women to feel satisfied with them is "PURPOSE."
That's a purpose beyond women. Contrary to popular misconception, women do NOT want to be your sole focus. That's trash from some songwriters who aren't getting laid. (Which is a whole other topic of guys who channel their sexual frustration into art, but let's end this before the sun sets...)
Guys, as I say - and as women are telling us - it's time to...
MAN UP.
Get the Secrets...
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