DATING ADVICE FOR MEN QUESTION:

Hey Carlos,

I got a problem that i gave it some thought for some days now, and i haven't come up with a solution yet. The problem is this: i am using my car a lot, either for work or leisure, so i spend from 1 hour to 3 on average everyday in the car (and sometimes on heavy traffic at low speed).

So, while waiting, i made it a habit to make eye contact with women, either pedestrians or drivers on the next jammed lane. After a while it became natural but the problem is that i can't think of a way to go beyond a mutual smile or a wave or some "frustrated" gesture about the heavy traffic. Of course this problem does not occure in other enviroments like coffee shops, bars etc where you can simply walk up and start some chit chat.

I gave it some thought and i concluded that the only thing i could do was to pass either a biz card or a note with my phone number (of course this applies while the weather is still good and the car windows are open). I have even considered on printing my number on a piece of paper and showing it, but i rejected that for obvious reasons. A card or a note looks spontaneous. The problem really lies on to the fact that i am going to be the one giving the phone number...(or perhaps i should just print a thousand more cards and have a who cares mentallity and play it on the numbers).

Actually this is a real hard situation because there are other factors involved, like when the light is green you have to get moving! Or when in a smaller street and making a comment to a girl walking (not rude or extremely arrogant etc) and there is another car behind me, i gotta move...

Normally, i wouldn't give the whole issue much thought, but i spend lots of time driving, so why the heck not?


Any thoughts on this?

Thanx
D
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CARLOS:

Cars are a tough one. You’re in motion. She’s in motion. If only you were in motion together. :)

If you’re on the curb-side of the street, and you can pull up next to someone, just put your hazards on. Let them honk their horn, you’re doing something important!

Here’s one thing I recommend for drive-time: Listening to CDs and tapes. Not music, either. I’m talking about self-help, developmental tapes, etc. Listen to anything and everything you can get your hands on, not just my audio and podcasts and stuff. With as much time as you spend in a car, you can get a full college education in just a couple years .. All in the comfort of your car. A PhD. in babe-attraction.

Or you can even learn a whole new language. You’ve got the time, so make it work for YOU. Then when you’re around women OUT of the car, you’ll have much more confidence and attitude.

You can work the lanes for the chickies, but that’s a low-yield use of your time. I’d suggest you do what you can as you drive, but consider it practice. The best thing is to be working on YOURSELF to shore up your foundation with the audio that can make you a better man.

Make sense?

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