DATING ADVICE QUESTION:

Hey Carlos,
Thanks for the numerous emails you send me on the regular. Being an Alpha man requires a lot of dedication and confidence. I am taking one chapter at a time and trying to see how this things apply in my daily life. I have a situation here that I may need some feedback on how to close the deal.

I met a girl whom I believe the feelings were mutual and at the time we met, I asked her to accompany me for dinner where we talked about a lot of things. Well I made the first move and gave her my number, and since then we chat here and there. I asked her to go out with me on a second date and she agreed but on the day we were to go out she canceled and I told her we could do it another time.

Now she hasn't called me since but whenever we meet we talk and she seems overly excited, a lot of touching on hands or shoulder. What is it that I am doing wrong here? Why is it she hasn't taken me on my offer for another lunch or a movie? or when I ask her to call she doesn't call me but then the next time I meet her she doesn't bring it up, but I don't show that i am upset. Advice please.

NB
by the way some dude I know also exchanged numbers with her and I overheard him tell my boy that she has never called him back or when he calls her she is always busy. I don't think she has written me off. I made the move and i laid back to give her time to make the move, but nothing.

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CARLOS:

Whoooooaaaaahhhhh....

I saw it right away, and it's going to be so simple, you're going to slap your head.

The answer is here, in what you said:
"I made the move and i laid back to give her time to make the move, but nothing."

and here: "the next time I meet her she doesn't bring it up"

That's the mistake.

Never wait for a woman to "make a move."
or "bring it up..."

It won't happen.

Women CRAVE attention. They thrive on it.

And while it's nice to think that we might live in a world where if a woman is interested in you, she's going to show it or do something...

She won't.

Ask any guy you know how many times they've had a woman ACTIVELY pursue them, and I guarantee you it's less than 1 in 20.

Why don't they make a move?

Because that makes them feel like they're being too eager and desperate. They feel like they're being a "slut" if they pursue a man.

That's why all those things you read where they claim to tell you how to make women chase YOU sound so promising.

It's every guy's most fervent desire - to have women come after HIM for a change. That way he doesn't have to RISK.

But this isn't the way the world works. And if you wait on her, she'll never help you.

She needs to know that YOU will take the steering wheel and control this from the start. You have to MAKE it happen with her. Don't look for response from her to keep going forward.

The way a woman shows interest in you is by NOT resisting your moving forward.

Read that line again until it makes complete and perfect sense.

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