DATING ADVICE FOR MEN QUESTION:

Carlos, first and for most want to think you for all your work and willingness to share your discoveries to help men obtain the life that they want and helping men regain their masculinity.


But I was surfing the net and I was surprise to see a site that was teaching WOMEN how to create attraction in men to get the men they want and those men to commit to them. I did not realized that as many guys don't "get" women it is the same for many women. Women are trying to create attracton in guys.

I'm still like,..what? I thought men we're the ones who didn't know how to attract beautiful women and needed to learn how to create attraction and that all beautiful women did was stand there waiting for a man to do so, counting on her looks.


But beautiful women learning techniques, very similar to what you teach, to attract the men they want? That was a bit of an eye opener for me. Like women using body language to attract men and using the same COCKY & FUNNY technique and reading signals men give off!! I guess the laws of attraction go both ways! What do you make of that?

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CARLOS:

I'm not actually all that surprised. You have to remember that a lot was revealed when the book "The Rules" hit the shelves back in the mid 90s. I know several women personally who used that book to get what they wanted in a man.

You see, the sad truth of the matter is that women don't really understand this stuff any better than guys do, but they have better instincts regarding human nature.

A woman doesn't have to DO anything to get men. She just has to doll herself up and parade around a bar to get a squad of gomers drooling all over her.

But the one thing she's missing is the ability to really CHOOSE who approaches her. Ask any woman what her biggest frustration is when it comes to guys is, and she'll cry on and on about always being picked by the wrong guys.

She won't do the approaching, so she has to wait until fortune tosses her a cookie with "Here's your stud" inside it.

That's why it's so much better being a guy sometimes, in my opinion. We get to evaluate the package and decide if we want to go after it. Women more often than not must wait passively to attract the guys they want.

What most women don't realize is that guys are very easy to read. They want there to be more going on, but it's really pretty simple. They WAY over-interpret the meaning of what men are saying or doing, thinking mistakenly that we've got as much need for complication and drama that they do.

And, Yes, these strategies and tactics work on both sides of the fence. Women can attract men with the same attitudes and behaviors.

That's not to say that I won't help out my French-manicured Betties in the future, because my mission is to bring men AND women together in better relationships.

But that's not why I'm here.

But right now I'm focused on getting guys' self-esteem back where it needs to be to put men back in their rightful Alpha position.

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