DATING ADVICE - SEDUCTION QUESTION:

So, I was talking online with this girl I have hooked up with many times
while being drunk at parties. The other night we went out on a booze cruise
and had an interesting ride home if you catch my drift. The problem is, I am
starting to like her and I have strong feelings she feels the same way. We
even agreed to hang out before I left for school, which is Thursday.

So going back to online chatting, I was busting her chops and she was loving
every minute of it, I could feel her frustration oozing through the computer
screen. Then the conversation drifted into serious talk, as in feelings...

I brought up the going out before I go away and she wanted to know why. I
told her straight up I wanted to see her and she said why would I since I
was leaving soon, especially after the majority of our interaction was done
while intoxicated. Basically she wanted to know what we were doing and I
said it was a surprise. She was intrigued, but it ended up getting really
serious with her questioning.

She ended up saying no and it hurt, but simply replied with, Fine, goodnight, and signed offline.

I think she thought I only wanted to get into her pants. Not to mention, I
think she is a virgin. What do you make of this? She is a bit younger than
me, but I KNOW this chick likes me. She throws out her cute little IOI's
every now and then, plus we hook up a lot. What did I do wrong?
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CARLOS:

You said it yourself: "it ended up getting really serious with her questioning."

Why did you LET it get serious?

This was a test of hers to see if you could hold your ground and be an assertive Alpha Man.

Answering her interrogation is not the sign of a confident man. It's the sign of a man who needs her approval, so when she discovered that you weren't and couldn't control the conversation, she bailed.

She has to know you'd be the kind of guy who would tell her "What, are you getting all serious on me now? Is this how you scare off guys? You're not going to start stalking me now, are you?"

Push back with a little teasing and more ball-busting. She was testing your willpower and boundaries.

When she asked you what your plan was ...

Did you give in when she pushed the point?

Were you afraid of making her mad, or making waves?

You should have just ended it when you had her interest. Leave her in a little mystery.

Then you can pick up things on your OWN terms later on.

Just because she asks you a question, that doesn't mean you have to answer it.

In fact, NEVER answer her questions directly. That's the fastest way to kill her attraction for you...

Oh, and the last mistake was carrying out this conversation online. Never allow any substitutes for in-person communication. Don't be so reliant on chats to talk with her. The only thing you should use that for is getting the next date SET and then getting off as fast as you can.

You're a busy man... with places to go and other women to see...

Or, at least you OUGHT to be.

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