ALPHA FOOT FETISH:

Dear Carlos,
What's up, I enjoy what you teach man. I really wish they teach your materials at the high school and college level, maybe even last years at junior high school. Instead of that politically correct trash where both men and women suffer though our adults lives. Well I'm glad I found you now, I'm in college.

Now here's my question, and I think I speak for all men who has this strong sexual attraction and desire for this part of the female anatomy. I am going to be blunt, I have a foot fetish. Although, I am open more open about it now than since attending high school I am still a little nervous (not a nervous-scare, but a nervous of how do I communicate my desires to where she is comfortable and more turned on by me ) of expressing these desires. When I get comfortable talking to a woman about this desire there is still a taboo in their view to some of the women I talk to.

If I notice a women and I like her feet there is some small talk, where there is a gap of silence or transition of the conversation where I will make a reference about her sandals/flip flops, foot jewelry, the color of her nail polish and toenail designs.

Then I will say, here my lines:
(Keep eye contact to her eyes, then I glance at her feet) "You probably aren't told this to often (which most aren't I found) (1 sec. pause) But I just looked down and I notice... that you have very pretty feet".

The other day my classmate (she's a cute Latina) and I were talking about each others artwork (I am taking ceramics course - Fine Arts major), and she was dangling her flip flop under the table (that's torcher - but I remained claim) and I notice that she just removed the purple nail polish off her toes, and that made her feet more sexy. So while we were talking I finally give in to my desires and said, "Hey Ginia right? (her name was printed on her beautician uniform). She said, "That's right, that's my name." Then I say, "Has anyone ever told you that... Your feet are more attractive when you don't polish your toes...and I thought you should know." She was overly flattered and giggling intensely at the same time.

Those are normally the reactions that girls give me when I compliment them. They give me a warm appreciated response, shocked look then laughter, and "your are a freak" remark, where she suddenly becomes flirtatious and very curious about my desire where we go into a deep conversation about why some men like feet and she shares some of her fantasies about it.

Now here is my question, when I am having a deep sensual conversation with girls on the subject of foot fetishism, how do I lead them and get them wanting to actually giving them a foot rub, playing with them, to doing erotic things where I am worshiping them of giving them pleasure?

In part of your The Seduction Method e-book you mentioned that a foot massage does get a women very warm and wanting for more at some degree. But in your experiences, do you know any foot worshiping techniques that would satisfy them sexually at that part of the body? Your wisdom is appreciated coming from a 22 year old black male college student who has the Eddie Murphy syndrome.

C.
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CARLOS:

Well, this sure wins my "Original Question of the Week" award.

Thanks for keeping me on my ... uh... toes.

(Oh, come on, you knew that was coming!)

Anyway, this is a really great question-within-a-question. Let's talk about it...

First off, good job on acting on your desires. I like your intro and how you went in with a strong approach. You'll get that giggling thing when you've appealed to a woman's validations needs.

The difference between your approach and others that don't work is that yours is UNIQUE. It's also a little bit of a neg-hit when you tell them they look nice when there's something obviously wrong with them. Even if you mean it, she gets a little bit of a mixed message.

Oh, by the way, all men have a "fetish" of some kind.

Some guys like farm animals. Some need a whip stuck up their ass. Some guys like those little tinkling showers.

Hey, whatever floats your boat.

DEFINITION:

Fetish: a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, part of the body, etc.

The problem is, who gets to decide what "abnormal" is?

By this definition, I'm a boob fetishist. I love knockers. Big or small, they just ROCK.

I don't know if my level is "abnormal" or not, but what the hell.

As Nikka Costa says, everybody's got their somethin'.

And, as far as fetishes go, feet are pretty common. I think it's something to do with the cleavage between the toes. Every so often I'll see a foot that makes me want to go shrimp-dipping those toes in my mouth...

(Insert uncomfortable silence here...)

Anyway, back to your question. What to do about this so that you can gratify the fetish.

Well, first off, realize that you may or may not meet women that enjoy the same desire that you do.

In fact, you have to be a little careful, because while a lot of women may actually dig this if they're digging you, you just can't hit them up front about it.

It's too big a step to go from "Hey, you're looking good" to "I want to adore your feet in a way that would make my eyes roll back in my head."

But the cool thing is that if you can use this angle of appreciating their feet the way you have been (and every woman loves appreciation of their feet - how lucky for you), you're going to find yourself in a position to ...

ASK HER FOR HER NUMBER.

Then GO OUT with her...

Then get her over to watch a movie...

Then tell her you are working on some new massage techniques and you want to ...

Aw, hell, dude, it'll be cake from here.

That taboo will evaporate once she feels comfort and trust for you. That's where it needs to start.

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