Notes from the Field:

Every so often I get some observations from guys as they
work out how the whole dating game works. I want to
share a few observations from a guy that I think you might
find useful.
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The Dating Black Book has helped me get a good perspective on how to
approach dating. The following things from the book
that have helped me are:

-It's a numbers game and you need to constantly
generate new leads because of that. Don't always have
a one and only hope.

-Inner Game: I now have the mindset that I'm the prize
and I'm giving you(the woman)the opportunity to get to
know me. If you're not smart enough to take advantage
of that opportunity then it's your loss.

-That dating, especially in the cold market that I
work is a mirror image of outside sales. I've done
outside cold call sales and I treat the cold contact
market the same. Either I get the sale or I don't, but
what's important is I tried to sell.

-Just learn from each experience and continue to move
forward.

-Don't give in to any crap or tests. Call her on her
behavior if you have to. i.e. (talking on a cell phone
during the meeting)

-Led me to take on Self-Improvement as a hobbie.

-You have to take ACTION to get anywhere. Reading is
good, but field work is where you really learn.

The Alpha Male Book:
-Great Fucking Book. I have many ebooks and this is my
favorite one by far.

-It has helped me big time with Inner Game. I used to
tear my hair out with all the BS I experience in the
game, but now I just laugh at it. Also, Inner Game to
me is the most important thing. Nothing will work
unless you have your inner game taken care of and that
was in the book.

-I've taken up karate

-I'm in my best shape since college.

-I've taken up meditation.

-Change is hard, but if you work at it you can do it.

-Nothing worth having will come easy, so accept the
burden of the work and do it.

-My desire to binge drink is very minimal. Used to be
one night a week, now maybe twice a month at most.

-I started going out alone, but now I've made some new
friends and wing with them.

-I make stronger eye contact and have better posture.
I enjoy going to Hooters for lunch to flirt and
dominate the waitresses with eye contact.(I don't get
all Manson eyes on them or anything. I just let them
know who's in charge with my eyes)

-Take ACTION. You have to do the work.

-Enjoy the challenge. Most guys I know just take what
they can get. I've made it my personal challenge to do
whatever it takes to get the awesome GF I want and
deserve.

-Never give up.

-Never be direct with women. I try not to give direct
answers and then change the focus of the conversation
on them.

-I've become more relaxed. When I was visiting my mom
a few weeks ago she told me I've never seen you this
relaxed and Mom's know best.

-I just have a strong belief in myself and that any
woman I let into my world is damn lucky.....seriously,
they are. I have a lot to offer and I live a life most
guys don't get to live.

-I'm consantly looking for ways to make myself better
in all areas of life. Per your words: we're here to
create ourself not find ourself. I started studying
self-confidence and try to become more confident every
day.

-Don't take this game so seriosuly. Just learn to
lighten up and have fun with it.


In the past year I've become more relaxed on dates,
I'm better at establishing rapport, and I go after
what I want with no apologies and I really don't care
what anyone thinks of me.

Your books have guided me in
the right direction and as we both know that taking
action is where you really progress. I was at Hooters
a couple weeks ago and our waitress was smoking hot
and my exact type. I flirted with her and exchanged
strong eye contact and smiles....On the way back to
work I then realized I was flirting with her. In other
words, I flirted with her without realizing it. It was
just the natural thing to do.

A year ago, I would be super nervous and saying to myself should I talk to
her, what should I say, etc. As small as that flirting
situation was this was big step for me because it was
just the natural thing to do rather than trying to
muster up the courage to do so. All in all I now I'm
starting to get it and I look forward to a year from
now when I'm pulling 9's and 10's on a regular basis.

As a note on the online - I submitted....the last 3
girls I met from match.com were at least 15 lbs
heavier than their photos. So far the myspace girls
have been truthful about their appearance. It's an
outlet to meet women I guess, but I know the good
canidates are going to come from cold approaches
wherever it may be and it's up to me to be ready to go
when that woman of quality shows up wherever I happen
to be.
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CARLOS COMMENTS:

Dude, you definitely hit this on the head. You picked up all the right things
from the e-book, and you're well on the way.

For you guys who still don't have The Dating Black Book e-book, get it HERE

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