ALPHA MAN ADVICE:

 
So I am at a club in San Diego with my friends. Well two of them were friends, and one a tag along. Both of the ones I know talk like they have games but didn't talk to ONE girl the whole night, one said something lame but she brushed him off. First I hit on this cute French intern, email closed here because of her saying she had only been here a week and didn't have a phone yet.

Right after that I went outside to go in my car and pick up a couple girls we'd spotted going outside for a break. On the way to my car I saw one of the hottest gals ever, standing out by the street as if waiting for a ride by herself. So I take off my watch and put it in my pocket, walk up and say, "Excuse me, do you have the time?" She tells me. So we get into a little conversation about the club here, where we're from, and how it was boring here. Now here's the part I am unsure about.

Now I know why you suggest taking some self-defense classes in your Alpha Man program. Her crazy boyfriend shows up in a black truck. Gets out and yells at her, "You get in the car!!!" He comes over and shoves me. Takes off his shirt and throws it at me and is like, "You want some of me? Come on put 'em up..."

I was drinking and knew I wouldn't be at my best, nor did I care to get arrested and/or in trouble with the military, especially fighting over a gal I didn't even know! I simply handed his shirt back to him, told him, "You don't want to do this..." Turned my back on him and walked back into the club. Picked up the other gals on the way back in.

Although it didn't bother me at the time, I find it hard to feel confident and Alpha knowing I backed down from a fight like that. What would have been the Alpha Man thing to do about it? Would a woman view me as a wimp for not fighting? How would you have handled the situation? And how do you think I should feel about it?

(Right now it feels bad because I feel like I punked out after I was sober, and think if I let it happen this time, will it always happen like this?)

This is kind of confusing for me, but I am sure you have encountered things like this before. Heck a few months back I wouldn't have even had the BALLS to talk to ANY of these women, let alone the hot French girl, or the one with the boyfriend.

Thank you Carlos for your works. It has so changed my life. Yesterday I had a choice to go back to a girls place who I know wants me now, or to the beach with the other gal I went on a date with who had a bf.

Anyways keep up the good work.
 
-M
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CARLOS:

Oh, yeah. This one hits close to home for me.

Why?

I always review these situations in my mind after they play out. I had some nut case on the highway cut me off and then proceed to give me lip at the next intersection. After everything he said, I'd cup my hand to my ear and holler "You want to suck my WHAT? No way!"

That's not how I recommend you handle these things, but that was sure a hell of a lot of fun.

I don't have a short answer to this, but I will say that you did the right thing, even if you feel like you backed down. You really didn't.

You knew you had been drinking, and if you had gotten in a tussle, you wouldn't have been at your best.

There's a saying - Anyone can fight, but only the wise man knows WHEN to fight.

Imagine if this redneck had pulled a knife or a shiv out on you... Imagine if it had gotten bloody because he couldn't control himself.

In the words of the old TV show Kung Fu: Avoid rather than check. Check rather than block. Block rather than hurt. Hurt rather than maim. Maim rather than kill. Kill rather than be killed, for all life is precious and cannot be replaced.


Be careful who you fight and why. As long as you know you didn't back down because you were a wimp, your self-esteem won't take a hit.

But the minute you start second guessing yourself about it, that's when self-doubt creeps in. Cut that off at the knees. Don't let yourself get in the game of post-event analysis. Just learn your lesson and move on - QUICKLY. Don't allow yourself to indulge in unhealthy thinking.

You're making great strides and progress with your Alpha Attitude, and I don't want you to fall victim to that voice of self-doubt again.

And if it makes sense, and you want to mix it up, punch the motherf*&#ers lights out next time.

Women love to have men fight over them. Don't believe that crap they spout when they act all disgusted about it, like we're cavemen. A chick who's in touch with her inner woman likes the competition for her affections.

Just don't be manipulated by her. I suspect that's what this chick was doing by talking to you. She was probably interested, but she knows how to get attention from her man.

Just stay on the Alpha Path.

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