DATING ADVICE FOR MEN QUESTION:

Hi Carlos,

I don't wanna boost your ego, but you really know what's happening in the field of attraction and your program is the best on the net!

I am 28 now and am attracted to elder women then me: ladies in their 30's and some 40's who managed to keep their great shape.
(I had a girlfriend for 1,5 year who was 8 years elder then me.)

These elder ladies are much easier for me to keep on a conversation and find topics to talk about then with girls in their 20's. And by their mid 30's women blossom like a flower. Unfortunately if a woman in this age is single then they are usually divorced or passed through some serious relationship which sometimes means some of them are damaged goods emotionally and not a good choice for an alpha man.

In one of your weekly mail you wrote no woman is more crazy then one in their late 30's.

My question is what's your advice for attracting ladies in their 30's and 40's. What are the subtle differences to be succesful with them than attracting a younger woman?

I have another question. I work in a bank and meet many clients day-by-day and get their phone numbers officially. What do you think the best way to capitalize on this opportunity. I mean after getting her phone number officially how shall I open a phone conversation not to seem like a wuss who call every sexy client who come accross to him in the bank - how can I stand out of the crowd in this situation and turn the table around?

And yes... I realized the best thing in the world is becoming an alphaman. I'm well on the way...

T from Hungary
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CARLOS:

Well, I don't believe I've ever stated that a woman is craziest in her late 30s. I think actually that's when they're most stable. They are more confident. They've gotten through all that nutty "gotta get a husband" behavior of their earlier 30s.

And they ROCK in bed.

The difference in getting with the "older" ladies is that you have to be playful AND intelligent. They're not going to go for the cocky young-guy routine. As a matter of fact, you can throw out most of that "cocky & funny" routine and stick to a more suave approach.

Again, notice the mannerisms of say... James Bond. Almost all of the women he seduces were in their 30s. He knows that he can hang in there and bring down the big game with his confidence and persistence. And he does.

You're going to have to be more creative and appeal to her sense of intellectual intercourse, just as much as you do her bubbly little "girls just wanna have fun" mentality.

If she's been around the block at all, she knows now what she wants, what works, and what doesn't work. So you've got to go in with even more balls than before so that you don't get blown out of the water in the first 30 seconds.

You've also got to have an element of sophistication with her. You can be Mr. Shallow and expect to engage her interest, either.

I don't know what it's like over there, but you better be careful about mixing business and pleasure by dipping into your client pool. If they welcome the advance, you're set, but if they don't and they decide they want to get stinky about it, you could get your ass in a big pot of boiling trouble. You might cost your bank a client, and yourself a job.

I'd say you should wait until you get some good indications of interest (IOI) and then drop a few hints to see how they're taken. If there's interest, you take a chance. But only ONE chance!

An Alpha Man has so much opportunity, he doesn't need to take unnecessary risks.

Oh, and next time, leave your pride at the door and feel free to go ahead and pump up my ego. It's the smart thing to do to get your way with another Alpha. :)

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