ALPHA QUESTION AND COMMENTS:

Carlos,

I ordered Secrets of the Alpha Man and I am listening and reading the
materials. I have never been helpless with women but there were serious
holes in my game. BIG HOLES.

Approaching women in public has always been a problem for me. And being clueless with women who put themselves in position for me to approach didn't help. A couple weeks ago there was a women who literally broke her neck to cross the produce isle in the grocery store to ask: "how do I know if these grapes are any good"

What did I do? Gave her a straight answer and walked away a little off balance. Clueless! Before I would beat myself up for not knowing what to say or do.

Thankfully, that's the past. Now I am planning to be a five tool player like Willie Mays.

I have read a lot of stuff from other dating gurus out there. Comparisons are a waste of time but I feel you are the only one that has all the bases covered.


I finally GET IT! in a big way, and I have you to thank. Getting women should not the focus. Building yourself up to be a happy well adjusted MAN! should. Not to get biblical on you but "Seek first the kingdom of the Alpha Man and all women will be given to you" Keep up the good work.

... it feels good to be unplugged from the Matrix.

- P. M.
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CARLOS:

A lot of guys go through this culture shock of coming out of their shell. A woman will start to pick up on your energy, and they will even approach you.

Yes, it does happen from time to time. But they do it under the guise of seeking help and guidance.

And the worst sin of all is to not be prepared for these events when they happen.

When your mind and spirit are together, you'll find that things just "happen" for you. It's really freaky, like you're plugged in to some new energy source.

You see, I propose that men build up themselves first, because if you don't, NO WOMAN will ever be what you want. NO WOMAN will ever be enough for you.

The steps of a healthy development are:

1) Birth

2) Physical and mental growth

3) Socialization

4) Sexualization

5) Spiritualization

Some of these phases are parallel, and some are ongoing for the rest of your life.

And some of them people will never go through all the phases very far, besides the physical growth.

That's why I laugh at some of these new age self-help authors that point to this great spiritual Nirvana, but they don't realize that for other people to journey to that path, they've got to a LOT of housekeeping to do first.

It's like saying, "Hey! I can teach you to Surf!" to those who aren't even very good swimmers.

Some are barely FLOATING...

I'm not putting down people, or their capacity to grow towards these goals, but the reality is that we are all at very different steps on that path.

I want to help you through the development of your confident ego (not "ego" as in the negative connotation, either.) You need to be an Alpha Man because ALL GOOD THINGS stem from this.

There are some guys who claim that the whole "seduction" and pickup community thing is a farce.

And they're partly right. If you're doing it without working towards a better YOU, you are heading on the expressway to disappointment.

It's all about GROWTH and learning.

Master yourself first, and then you can go after the "heart centered" approach a bit more. But if you have lingering insecurities, or self-esteem issues that hold you back from healthy and confident interactions with women, you can't just jump into "open heart" mode.

It doesn't work that way. And you'll damage your ability to grow by traumatizing that open heart.

Create your own Alpha image, and all good things will follow.

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