DATING ADVICE FOR THE ALPHA MAN QUESTION:

Hi Carlos, I was really wondering how I could find out how my girlfriend really feels about me if I can't have her telling me herself in the form of reassurance? I'd like to know that i'm not the only one who is crazy about her (has to be mutual!).

I almost broke up with her but we made up after I told her I couldnt force her into anything , so I needed to know whether she was in or out!!...To my heart's rescue she told me she cared about me. I cant seem to get myself convinced that she believes in "US". Is it really that difficult for women to express the way they feel without fear of being hurt or taken advantage of?

Thank you for the latest correspondence, it helped me realise that if I didn't maintain confidence and control she'd drift away. I aim to be more interesting in my approach with her rather than being exact..

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CARLOS:

The real issue here is not that you don't "know" how she really feels about you.

It's that you CARE.

Think about it for a second...

If you got a letter in your mailbox today telling you that your best friend from high school had hated your guts and really wished you dead during your Senior year, how would you feel?

Would you tear your hair out and cry?

Would you wish that you could go back over the last 10 years of your life and put the misery in that you SHOULD have felt if you'd only known how he felt?

No. You did just fine with whatever belief you had.

I'm here to tell you that there are people that both HATE you and LOVE you, AND that you'll probably never get that letter telling you how they feel so that you can "make up your mind."

What other people think or feel about us doesn't matter to the Alpha. Opinions and feelings change with the wind (especially with women.)

The Alpha goes right on marching through life to the beat of his own drummer, and pursuing HIS goals, HIS aspirations, HIS dreams.

Because if there is ONE thing that will stop you from being the person you are trying to become, it's making decisions based upon what other people think.


If she's WITH YOU that's all the proof you need. By chasing her opinion, you'll lose her for sure, because she'll know that your confidence is built on HER opinion, and no one wants to be with someone to validate their sense of worth.

You'll also be giving off the vibe that your love is conditional upon her feeling the same way, and that makes for a stingy relationship where you only give to get.

A strong Alpha Man doesn't need anyone's approval or affection to give his out freely, and that's why so many adore him.

Again, if you chase her opinion, or start fishing for feedback, she'll lose you faster than a bad hand on a video poker machine.

Guaranteed.

It's only your insecurities that keeps you needing to know how she feels.

The ONLY thing that matters is how YOU feel about YOU.

That's it.

PERIOD.


End of story.

Game over.

Zip up your fly.

Once you get the right mind-set, the world suddenly seems like a different place to you. This happens to every Alpha Man that wakes up from the Matrix and understands what his value is REALLY made of.

If you'd like to know what you're really made of, I want you to look at THIS.

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