CLINGY GUY QUESTION:

Last night I went to this girl's who I am interested in. There were a lot of
guys and girls there, but all the girls were all over the other guys, the
girl I like included. Since I'm new around here, I didn't know anyone, but
remained undaunted. I talked to everyone I could, but couldn't really grab
this girl's attention. I was driving up the attraction like crazy last week,
but don't know what happened last night.

How can I compete with all these guys? It seems like they have a big
advantage over me knowing these girls already. What do I have to do here?

Also, towards the end of the night we all went to another party and I
started acting needy clingy to her. How can I redeem myself?


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CARLOS:

You can redeem yourself by giving up on her and never being needy/clingy again. You know the penalties. There are no "take backs" in this area.

More fish in the sea.

Don't get caught up in competing. You'll never win.

Just resign yourself to the fact that if you can drive up your own self-confidence and presentation, give yourself a month or two of networking and improving your social proof by being the guy "everyone" knows, you'll do fine.

Don't be in such a rush. You need to stand back and be observant FIRST, and then you can go for the kills. Right now, your power is in your ability to read the social situations and understand their personality types, etc.

Read Sun Tzu. The Art of War.

And re-read The Dating Black Book.

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