DATING ADVICE FOR MEN QUESTION:

Hi Carlos,

Just want to ask you how would we come across as an 'alpha man' when we want to jump from one stone to another without appearing as needy as we are? Is there a timeline you use (eg. after 1 month - target kissing, after 3 months together - target extended kissing)?

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CARLOS:

Good question.

This is a point of confusion for a lot of guys, because they think that in order to move forward with a woman, you can't hold back or demonstrate posture with her.

There is also a mistaken belief that if you just "hold back" and "act cool" enough for her, she'll just jump all over you.

There is a dilemma here for many guys, and I'll clear it up right now.

You can be moving forward and NOT appearing needy at the same time. In fact, you'll appear even more confident and masculine if you do.

How?

By acting on your desires you demonstrate the Alpha quality of ACTION.

It's HOW you go after those desires that will set you either in the Alpha squad, or the Beta bin.

If you move forward in a shaky, not-so-sure, hope-you're-not-offending-her attitude, she'll walk away. It will seem too much like you need her approval.

On the other hand, if you move forward in a confident, this is what I want, and if you can't supply me I'm GONE attitude, you won't seem needy and she'll be more likely to follow your lead.

Now timelines are tricky. They're different for every woman you meet. But the only ones I'd make a point of getting to (and if you're presenting yourself with confidence, none of these should be difficult) is this:

- Sometime on the first REAL date of several hours with each other = Goal: Kiss.

Any woman who's into you at all will oblige you with a short and controlled kiss. If she doesn't, she's just not that into you.

Any other deadlines are arbitrary depending on the situation.

You'll move faster the better you demonstrate the qualities you develop in the Alpha Man program, though...

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