DATING ADVICE FOR MEN:

Carlos,

I’ve been consistently running into a situation with the ladies that I hope you can shed some light on.

I have been pursuing a woman that’s easy to track down because she works at the same company but in a different department.

I began flirting with her a little through e-mail and then in the hall by teasing her and she definitely showed some IOI’s. I asked her to lunch after about two weeks of flirting band during lunch she mentioned, casually mind you, that she had a boyfriend WTF!! I decided to see how far she would go so I asked her out for drinks and although she did not say no she told me she had a doctors appointment and that “maybe” we could go out next week.

My question is this:

Since I work with this chick I can see her whenever I want BUT I have been spacing my personal (no more e-mails) interaction with her so that I see her every 3-4 days. Gradually it seems like she is becoming less and less interested (to the point of being cold) in talking with me. I can feel her starting to slip away and I feel like my hands are tied. If I give her any more distance I feel like that would be it. If I go to see her more often even with a teasing confident attitude I run the risk of smothering her and pushing her away? So my hands are tied.

I know this is just one example but it’s happened with every single woman I been pursuing where they begin to realize you are interested and attainable and therefore their interest dies.

Can I do anything about this?

Thanks for your insight,
B
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CARLOS:

This is a common dilemma, and one that I'm going to cover more thoroughly in my Advanced Audio Coaching in the next month or two.

A woman loves to play with the fire.

If she's got a boyfriend already, she'll stoke your fires of desire just to satisfy her need for attention. When she's got you, she drops you like 2nd period French.

The key to keeping their interest in you is to constantly CHALLENGE them.

Have them do something for you. Let them know that you're NOT that attainable in the meantime.

Once you feel that a woman has started to slip away, it's too late. Game over, man.

The key is to CONSTANTLY hit her frustration buttons so that she is delightfully aggravated. Sound weird? It's not.

I used to help my friend tow cars home that he was going to repair and re-sell. I would steer and brake the junker while he pulled me from the front. Now, you have to know HOW to drive that rear car or you're going to screw things up badly, and the chain will disengage.

You have to maintain constant tension between you and the other vehicle. When he accelerates, I just let him pull me. When it's time to slow down, I have to do the braking for both of us.

Sound familiar?

It's the same with women, chumley.

If you feel at a point at which if YOU were to slow things down any more she would back off completely, that means you slowed down too far. You have to keep in gear and moving forward.

Too late for her, but you have the right understanding now of what NOT to do. Don't let her know so easily that you're A) that interested, and B) attainable.

And you should probably get into the Secrets of the Alpha Man program, which develops your attitude so that you don't make these mistakes in the future...

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