Broken. Bad.

Here is a long question. I am involved with this woman that we have been connected for a long time. We go back and forth with the fighting and such.She says were are friends but act like more. Then she says I disrespect her when I tell her I love her.

But when we are together she acts differently when we talk on the phone or email. What she says and what she feels is different. There is so much fear and anger from past relations that is trying to recreate those. I can recognize that now.

She wants to end the contact but in her emails there is so much energy that I know she really does not want to. She went away for about 4 months and then came back.

She always give me hint of the connection. What do you think is the best way to get past her head.When she is not in the head she can feel but when she is it is difficult. Need some clarity. Thanks

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CARLOS ANSWERS:

Let me tell you something... Women have been playing this innocent dual-personality gambit for as long as time itself.

Hell, I used to get caught up in it before I learned what was really happening.

I'm going to be blunt here, since I'm in one of those moods. Plus, I just had my gums irrigated. And since I don't do anesthetics, I'm in a surly mood.

- This woman is probably damaged. In technical terms, she's f*$&ed up. "Fear and Anger" are not what you want, are they? I hope not. Make better decisions for yourself, even she can't for herself.

- Stop trying to interpret what she wants for her. You can't MAKE a person want you. If she really wanted you, she wouldn't be holding herself back. She'd be in your arms and in your bed.

- Go out and meet ten quality women (i.e., no baggage), and take it to a romantic level with them. If you still want this stunningly messed up specimen after that, by all means, go for it. But you know what? You won't.

- You're addicted to the variable reinforcement you're getting. Just when you are about to give up, I bet she gives you just the right amount of hope. It's classical addiction behavior. And if you don't watch out, it will ruin your Alpha Man attitude. (It already has made you waste time and energy in a relationship that has gone NOWHERE.)

- The concept of sunk costs says that no matter how much you want to , you can't recover money that has been spent, or invested without giving a return. It's gone.  The best thing you can do is to go find a GOOD place to invest. But most people follow their (wrong) emotions that tell them if they just hang on a little longer, they'll get the Big Reward. So they continue to throw good money after bad.

When the game you're in is costing you more than it is returning, it's time to MOVE ON.

PERIOD.

And then you need to learn how to change your attitude to be the Alpha Man that women want.

Sure, books like "The Game" have brought this area into the public eye, but if all you do is copy a bunch of techniques from some forum somewhere, you're not going to do well. You'll get blown out by women and your attitude will go right down the drain.

Instead, why not learn how to use your REAL personality to get women?

You can find out more on my Alpha Immersion web site...

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