ALPHA MALE QUESTION:

Well, I have the secrets of the alpha man program but it seems to me that you focus on achievements and success to raise guys self esteem and self confidence. I thought success doesn't bring happiness? Also, there are many people in this world who don't achieve a lot but have a high sense of self esteem and confidence. How do you explain that Carlos? Just curious, thanks man.

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CARLOS:

Let's be clear, here. There are three DIFFERENT concepts floating around here, and they aren't always connected.

The three concepts that are getting mixed up are HAPPINESS, SUCCESS, and CONFIDENCE.

Happiness is a by-product of doing something worthwhile that fits your goals in life.

Happiness is NOT an outcome. It's generated by ACTION and following your heart.

When you say that success doesn't bring happiness, you're missing something important: Success doesn't ALWAYS bring happiness. It's not guaranteed.

Why?

Because you can win the things that look all shiny and new, but still miss the boat when it comes to satisfying your inner sense of satisfaction and sense of achievement.

If your true calling in life is to help kids get through difficult times, and you're spending it by playing office politics to get a director's position at your company, you're not a success ... to you. Maybe to someone else, but not you.

Make sense?

It's only by achieving goals through the definition that I provide you in the program will you be "happy." And not just through the process of the goals, but defining the VALUES that you have behind them. (See page 230 in the book. Also read the section on leadership that starts on page 259.)

"Success" is subjectively defined, meaning that it's different for everyone. The big mistake is to adopt the universal definition of "success" that the Media presents, which is that you have a ton of money, drive a flashy car, have the whitest teeth, and drink the most popular booze.

Success is what YOU define it to be for YOU.

Don't be deceived by appearances.

It's a complete picture that I paint for you only in the Alpha Man Program.

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