Use Sales to Approach Women

I am taking a sales course and the name of the course is called "Sander Sales Course". Anyway one of the things during the course I am taking is that the instructor mentioned that the one section is great for picking dates?

It is broken up like this:
- Thanks - "Invite".
- Time = Ask?
- Their question - Bring up question of concerns they may have.
- Your questions - Bring up what questions you may have.
- What kind of outcome - (Yes, No, Clear Next Step).
- Biggest Fear.

I thought to myself this is one of the biggest sales jobs that we will ever do is to sell our selves to the opposite sex. I don't know how I would word it yet, but I think it would be interesting way of doing it.

It may go something like:

Joanne, thanks for letting me talk to you and do you have 20 minutes. I would like to sit down to see if we have any things that would be beneficial for both of us. I know you have questions, such as who is this guy, why would I want anything to do with him, does he have any thing of value to me, etc. I have some questions as well, such as who is lady standing in front of me, is she sassy enough for my interest, etc. Would you do me a favor and be very honest? If we don't have anything that is of benefit to each other can you tell me that? (You want to get a yes, no, Clear Next Step). I have one fear and that I will not be able to connect to you in some way? (Pick what ever your fear may be).

I don't know if these are the best words, but it is the idea of it. I think it would be better then most of the opening lines that most people use these days.

- D.J.

CARLOS:

I like the approach. It's honest, and it's straightforward. You have to understand that it will freak a lot of women out because they're not capable of dealing on this wavelength.

I would just re-tool the wording to be more laid back and casual. If you can deliver this with a calm sense of confidence, it would be a great approach.

A lot of sales material is VERY applicable to dating and pickup.

I do think that this particular method would be best suited for a close after a first meeting, to get the next date.

Here's what I'd do with it:

1) Remove the wordiness and the "I'm trying to prove myself tone.

2) Shorten it up

3) Be direct, but don't freak her out with too much 'honesty'

Leave your fears out of it. That's not what she needs to hear right away. Fear-based disclosure creates discomfort when you don't know someone well enough, and it's never a good idea on the first few meetings.

She needs to feel a sense of safety and confidence from you. Remember, you have to have enough confidence for the both of you.

This is the principle of the Secrets of the Alpha Man

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