When a woman disrespects you:

How do we handle the following situation? You set a date with a chic, and
when you get there, another guy is sitting talking to her and she asks you,
"Would you mind terribly if we rescheduled?" Seems disrespectful to me! Is
this a test? Thanks!

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CARLOS:

When I read this, the hairs on the back of my neck stood up.

That was, without a doubt, the most disrespectful thing a woman could do.

And it must be dealt with as firmly as possible. If only to make sure that your self-respect is not damaged in the process. You have to send a clear message to your nervous system that this kind of treatment will NEVER be accepted. (It's actually less important that SHE gets this message, by the way.)

Here's how I would have handled the situation, and see if it makes sense:

1) Nod to the guy that's with her and read his eyes. Is he a chump? Is he scamming on my woman? Maybe. No more than I might do to his woman in the future, so he's just being a guy. But he needs to know who's boss. He could have been a dishwasher on his break, but you need to understand what's going on.

2) Look her in the eyes and say, "Why?" Make her explain as to her reasoning. You need to know exactly what thinking was going through her head that she would ask that. Don't say a word for a full minute, if that's what it takes to get a full response out of her. Take another full minute to contemplate what she says after she's done, if you need to. Is she trying to test you? Play games?

3) I shook my magic 8-ball, and came up with this: "Unless she's just been notified of a death in the family, and that guy is the one breaking the news, she's full of chunky, toxic-waste, semi-digested SHIT. And she needs to be called on it. You mean to tell me she actually went to the place where you were supposed to meet, and now something has "come up?" Yeah right.

Here's what I'd say:

"Yes, absolutely I mind. We made a date tonight, and I expect you to stand by your word. Everything you've said to me so far has been an insult to my intelligence. Do you treat all the guys in your life this way?"


I'd say it with a CALM sense of power. I wouldn't raise my voice. My eyes would stay relaxed, no need to glare.

In short, she deserves to feel like the disrespectful bitch that she is.

Don't get angry. Don't let your emotions take over. Just make sure you "manage" her and her selfish little take on life.

Walk away with your head held high, and your self-respect even higher.

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