COCKY and FUNNY - TEASING QUESTION:

hey carlos whats up man, I have a couple of things that I do not get with girls....first off I understand the whole tease to please, cocky funny attitude, and once I get into it, it works great and everything, however when I talk to a girl is it ok if I just have normal conversation with her, and add in a little cocky and funny here and there??

also will a girl STILL be interested if I do not use cocky and funny but my body language is good, as well as my confidence, and is it good enough to keep things going? (just curious..).

another question I have is do guys NEED to take women on dates? is it a rule of thumb that if you go out with a girl you must take her out, and if you dont take her out, but still have the right attitude and use all the things you teach, will she stay with you??

- H in NY
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CARLOS:

Actually, you hit something on the mark there.

Most guys over-use and abuse the whole "cocky and funny" concept. They succeed in getting a little interest started, but they don't know how much of it to use, or for how long, or when to bring it back into the conversation, or why good-looking guys have to watch out for using it at all.

The short answer to your questions is "yes."

You should try and have REAL conversations whenever possible. Avoid this need to have to put on a performance to keep her interested.

A "real" conversation, by the way, is simply one that doesn't bore the shit out of her. (Which, for some guys, can be quite a chore.)

Just talk to her like a normal person, but keep it "spiced" up with occasional negging and teasing. Your goal is create a level of sexual tension between you that she will home in on like a moth to a flame.

As long as you can keep moving forward and eventually build some comfort, you'll do fine.

As far as "dating" goes, it is never recommended that you take her out to dinner on the first meeting. In fact, that's WAY overkill.

If you need to "bribe" a woman to be with you by buying her a meal, that's not the right way to start off your relationship. Whether she understands it or not, she'll react much more to having FUN than by having to handle a 3-4 hour high-pressure "date" situation.

Just focus on the EXPERIENCE she has, and she'll be into it. There is plenty of time for the mating behavior after you've got her interest.

For more on the proper attitude, I suggest you check into my Alpha Seduction program. It's got the concentrated details...

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