The Game is On

When I spoke at Neil Strauss's book signing event here in San Francisco, little did I know how much brotherhood we had in the "community." That word kept coming up over and over that night, and it really is a community of men trying to do something good for guys overall - AND for women, too. Ignore all the acronyms (LMR, AMOG, DDB, HB, etc.); it's all about giving women what they want, so you can have a little of what you want in return.

"The Game" is an awesome read, compelling from cover to cover. As a "guru" (I've never taken to that title - I prefer "Advisor") in the community, I found myself nodding my head an awful lot, laughing out loud at some of the surreal anecdotes (the one with Courtney Love greeting the Tourette's Syndrome kid comes to mind immediately), and shaking my head at their foibles and misadventures. It was all familiar ground, but Neil captured the essence of the subculture without missing a beat.

Sure, it was obviously dramatized in many sections, but I he makes the ride so much fun you won't care. From the far flung reaches of lawless eastern Europe to the former lair of Dean Martin, you're coming along for a strange journey of women, mental breakdowns, and guys with names that could have been ripped from teenage comic books - Sickboy, Papa, Herbal ...

Some women may read this book with a bit of disgust, but the reality is that the tactics described in the book really do work - and they work WELL. We're all slaves to our primal attraction mechanisms whether we want to admit it or not. At the very least, you're going to learn a little of what we teach men to use to create attraction in the opposite sex. (The truth is that much of this stuff works both ways. Women have been using these techniques more subtly since time began.)

But the ultimate conclusion we all reach at some point is that it's not the "Game" you play, or how you bend the rules to validate yourself. The ultimate statement of our masculinity isn't even about women at all. It's about the respect and confidence you have in yourself, and the goals you're pursuing in life.

And, as I tell my students, if you're headed somewhere in life, women will want to come along for the ride.

- Carlos Xuma
https://www.datingdynamics.com

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