How to handle a flake BEFORE it happens...

For the first time in a newsletter a dating coach has described flaking to a great extent ...thanks I appreciate your help!...one very quick question though...this has happened to me ...A woman I talked to for about a week or so told me this line: I will call you on fri to finalize plans...I knew she was going to flake right then and there...

I DO NOT and STILL do not have a response to this phrase...I know she will never call...should I tell her anything?? I was told by my friend that if she says it it means: I have somebody else to go with that fri but if THAT GUY tells me no or cancels I will call YOU THEN...do you think that its true?? How can I be FUN (in reading your newsletter & not care) if I know she's got another guy and I want to be NUMBER ONE!

-P from jerzey
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CARLOS:

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You're already on the right path if you can RECOGNIZE a flake that's about to happen. Where most guys go wrong here is when they IGNORE what they know is about to happen and let it happen anyway. Then they spend a day or two kicking themselves in the ass.

The bottom line here is that if a person knows something is going to happen and they still let it happen, you've got no one to blame but yourself. If you let it happen AGAIN, then you're guilty of the worst crime against your attitude imaginable: DISRESPECT. When you go down this path, you can only end up ruining your own confidence.

What you need to do is let her know that you do not accept this kind of treatment.

"Sorry, dear. I'm not the kind of guy who wants to be your second chance plans. If you have anything else going on, cancel it. I'm more fun."

If she doesn't make a commitment to see you, tell her that perhaps you should reschedule then for another time.

If she doesn't bite, you need to remind her about how much fun you are/were. You were fun weren't you? If not, then I guess I don't blame her for flaking.

If you want to BE the fun guy, I suggest you learn how to do that by being the Alpha man.

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