Don't idolize women! Just go talk to her as if she's a human being.

Hey Carlos,

My name is Steve and I'm a subscriber to your E-mails. They have provided a lot of help, thanks.

I have a problem, a few weeks ago me and a mate went to his local shopping  centre one night and we walked past this amazing young female, she is on of those angels that come in through your window in your dreams. I made the mistake of telling my mate that i thought she was incredible. it turns out he goes to school with this girl. He is in some of the same classes as her and has since told her that I have this huge crush on her, which isnt true I just thought she was beautiful.

But this is where my problem comes in, Id like to introduce myself to her but I now fear that my mate has ruined my chances of getting her number and hopefully a date with this girl.

What should I do...?

Please Help
Steve
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CARLOS:

First of all, take the misty glasses off and stop idolizing women based on their looks.

You say you don't have a crush on her, but I suspect that's not entirely true. You wouldn't be writing me if she was just a passing fancy.

She's not a magical, mystical entity. She's not "incredible." She's not even "amazing" until she demonstrates some positive qualities beyond her appearance.

Get me?

Second of all, get rid of the begging tone and MAN UP!

I hear a lot of guys that come crying to me with an urgent tone and say things like "Please please help me!" or "URGENT HELP NEEDED" which just shows me that they're putting WAY too much emphasis on the woman.

Trust me, you were fine without her for all these years, you'll do fine for a while longer.

In fact, in many cases you'll do even better WITHOUT her.

Not every woman is a match. It's time to start being a little more choosy. Stop letting every woman you glimpse into your heart like some sacred angel. She has yet to prove herself to you!

Did you ever think about it that way? That she still has something to demonstrate to you?

Such as:

- Compatibility
- Healthy positive attitude
- Willingness to watch Bruce Willis action movies until dawn..
- Etc.

So to answer your question, "What should I do?"

It's pretty easy, chap.

GO TALK TO HER!

Why are you making this such an arcane, mysterious process? Just go talk to her!

You're running around with some imagined fear that she now thinks of you as a long-distance admirer. You're imagining scenarios that have no basis in reality.

Well, if you're not all mushy inside, you should have no problem walking up and showing her your Alpha Man strength and impressing her with your confidence.

But, like many guys, you're only getting part of the picture. If you're reading my emails and newsletters, you're getting a little of the picture, but you need the basics and the REAL picture of the whole Dating Dynamic.

Don't "cheap" yourself out of learning the principles that all men who are good with women use.

You still need to get the Dating Black Book. This is your handbook for better success with women. It's also your launching point to get to the Alpha Man inside you.

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