Piss her off - sometimes.

Carlos, Your Alpha Immersion program is awesome! This is the best stuff out there. No exclusive reliance on bullshit silly routines and fake openers. You really get to the essence of what this whole mind-set is about. There is no need to maintain a complicated system of procedures and processes in my head. You really helped me understand how to be myself that is the real self. The person I am with my friends and not worrying about pleasing women. I am starting to get-it. It is all about eliciting emotions in women.

Although, it seems that lately I have just been pissing them off.

I'm 40 year old guy so I don't have must interest in dating the really young ones. They are just too immature for me. So, I'm pretty picky about who I target. I do flirt with every cashier, hostess, server or sales girls but I don't try to go any further with it.

Ok, now for my questions. First the setup. I was out at this amazing party tonight. My friend has a friend who is hooked in and organizes these amazing parties with tons of beautiful women. In fact I was talking to a group of 3 and they were complaining that they were going to leave because they didn't like girls. The ratio was like 10 to 1!

Anyway, I worked my approaches and even tried some risky stuff just to have fun. I told the group of three, "You know I can handle all three of you." in a joking way. After they were complaining about not enough guys. They responded with attitude and one said "I don't think so!", so I just kept pushing it. Saying stuff like, "You have some attitude don't you!" You know just having fun. So this just sets the tone for you.

Later I'm talking to another girl and teasing her about smoking. She told me she only smokes when she drinks. Then she told me the story about how she started smoking. It was a pretty involved story. I then told her how I started and later stopped and we seemed to have a pretty good connection. I did a little light kino with her while were were talking and she responded as well.

After a bit she says. "I'm going inside and you are welcome to join me." I said. "I have to get back to my friends but maybe we'll hook up later. So, I see her later. She is with a group of guys and girls and I introduce myself to the group. At one point she starts talking about dating people at work. I then bust on her for dating co-workers _and_ being a smoker. At that point she looks at me and says. "You know what, we have met and I have had enough of your comments" and bails. Was she just not that much fun and I should just say next?

The thing is I managed to piss off several women. There was another one. She is pouring herself a drink and I playfully said, "You know you better be careful so you don't get drunk and try to take advantage of me." Ok, maybe that was little out there I hadn't talked to her before that. Anyway, she split. A little later I told her, "I was just kidding, lighten up." She said, "Oh I know I was kidding you back." But, I swear before that she was going out of her way to avoid me.

Ok, now another one. I'm talking to this different woman and we seemed to have a pretty good connection. We talked about skiing and snow boarding and I think there was some light kino. Not sure. Anyway, I ask her what else she likes to do besides boarding and skiing. She say's some stuff including I like to go out to dinner.

I said playfully, "Whoa I'm not taking you to dinner yet we just met." She says, in a not so playful manner, " I have no such expectations" and freezes me out but then comes back. We talk a little more then we go our separate ways. I can't quite remember how it went down. I'm drinking a bit but not a huge amount. So, I don't think that is a problem. Anyway, I try to hook up with her later as she is leaving. I put my arm around her waist and say something like, "You're not leaving yet are you?" "This is where its at." She grabs my arm, removes it and says, "Yes, I am" and splits.

Now, I wouldn't think too much about this if it was just one woman but, every one that I targeted? Much of them time I do fairly well at the bars and clubs and end up often doing some body grinding and sometimes making out. I'm confused. This was supposed to be a warm market. Got any insight? I know this was really long so cut it up however. I'm kind- of rambling I know.

The main thing is I want to learn from this but I'm not sure what that would be except that none of them were very fun. That doesn't seem likely. I don't think any of these women were particularly young. I would guess late 20s early 30s range. So, it doesn't seem to be that they were just young and flaky.


Thanks,

P
______________________
CARLOS:

It's tough, isn't it?

Sometimes you don't know how to read them when you're trying out these tactics.

Let me make one recommendation for every Alpha Man out there: You need to go TOO FAR.

Most guys are too afraid of pissing women off, and in order to feel the limits of what's "Nice" and what's "Jerk", you have to go too far. Otherwise you'll be guilty of being intimidated by women as well as never filling the limits of your own life.

Once you feel that you've pushed the envelope a little, then you need to take a look at your actions a little closer.

- Are you being obnoxious instead of "cocky"?

- Are you still maintaining an edge of humor in your interactions?

- Do you think you might be working the 'arrogant' thing a bit too much?

It's not as necessary as you think to "neg" women or tease them if you can just be PLAYFUL. Remember, it's all about FUN.

If you're having this kind of a problem consistently, then you need to review your body language, tone, and presentation. There's something that's not working. My guess is that it has to do with the WAY you're using these cocky/teasing lines. It's probably a calibration issue.

The best way to get past this sort of problem is to review your presence through one of my seminars, or if you can't make the trip, get my Alpha DVD program. That will give you the best parts of the March seminar - the groundbreaking Alpha Immersion Seminar.

alpha man | how to talk to women | approach women | dating advice for men