How does an Alpha Man handle a woman's bad behavior?

I've dipped into parts of the dating black book and have tried a couple of strategies, specifically trying for unusual and different first dates. This I find is a successful technique, enabling me to stand out from the crowd of also-ran's that pursue the same girl.

Another good idea is challenging a woman on her tests instead of spinning ones wheels with repeated offers. This has achieved positive results, where previously I might have stalled...

I had email/phone from a woman a month ago.

Since then made 2 invites to afternoon dates (starbucks/library) Received a reply saying she was busy and needed some time.

Then made two invites to coffee dates early evening. No reply to either invite.

I called her on this silence texting her: "it feels rude to get no response and that I thought she was more creative than this"

Just received text apology saying shes confused, just started new job, got new life etc. (This is true her ex-employer closed down 3 weeks ago)

My instincts say to trust her action (Staying in contact and leaving door open) rather than to believe her words.

I have two questions:

How best could I phrase next invite to reduce risk of flaking?

How could I have better phrased the "calling her on her rude failure to reply"?

Many thanks

J
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
Aha. The answer, my friend, lies in one sentence of your email where you said:

I called her on this silence texting her: "it feels rude to get no response and that I thought she was more creative than this"

I'm finding more and more that the turning point in any situation with a woman is just that - a point. It wasn't an evening or a morning or a particular "date." It's almost always a single ACTION that does you in.

From there on out, you either spiral the drain, or you take off into the atmosphere.

What happened here is that you let your emotions dictate the vibe, and when you tried to demonstrate some backbone, you ended up looking like a dick. Some women will respect your stance - but most will not.

The presentation must always be that of an Alpha Man who can take this stuff in stride.

In other words, if you're still getting indignant and agitated because a woman flakes on you, or appears to not pay attention to you, you're indicating something to her.

1) This is something you're sensitive about

2) You are angry - meaning that you're showing it in a way that is a turnoff for women

3) You have not had enough experience with women that you still get angry and indignant when this happens to you.

4) She senses that you don't have many options if you're riding all your emotional chips on her like this

You see, she knows that most women do this sort of thing, and her inaction is not necessarily a reflection on you.

Women are flaky.

Hell, so are guys.

Your first step is to drop the angry tone. You'll never get what you want by fear and intimidation. You may "make a stand," but you'll alienate yourself in the process.

Even if someone disrespects us, we have a choice in how we act about it.

Always do it with an edge of good humor.

The fact is that by trying to reduce the probability of flaking, you're really making it that much more likely it will happen. Give up the need to manipulate the circumstance, and adhere to the correct principles.

The principles are all spelled out in my e-book - The Dating Black Book. Go ahead and download it here...

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