Don't be in a hurry....

Hmmm, my situation. So I have no problem getting women into bed, however, I think this takes away from my wanting to be with them long-term, they're too easy. Currently seeing 3 women, but thats it, theres nothing more there. Its been a while since I've met one that I actually wanted to stay with long term. Think I have a hard time trusting women, heck if they slept around half as much as I did that would still be substantial.

So I guess my situation is that I'm meeting all the wrong types of girls, possibly looking in all the wrong places. At my age, 29, I'm ready to finally settle down, well sooner than later...

Any feedback would be appreciated on this short summary.

Thanks,

Karl
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CARLOS ANSWERS:

At your age??? You're laying an artificial expectation on yourself. You don't have to get married unless you REALLY want to get married.

One thing I've discovered is that the attitude of "I want to get married" very often makes you very undesirable to women.

You're going to carry this aroma of "I'm ready ladies... let's get going..." And it will ultimately repel the very women you're looking to find.

The attitude you should have is just that of EXPLORATION.

Another problem you should address is your double standard. You said: " if they slept around half as much as I did that would still be substantial."

What does that say about you, my friend?

If you're saying it's okay because it's you, you're making a classical error. (In fact this is a fallacy I blow wide open in my new program, Alpha Man Conversation & Communication.)

If the women you're seeing aren't doing it for you, or aren't what you want, you need to start cycling your inventory, chum. The more of your life you fill with what you DON'T want, the less room there is for what you do.

Figure out where your lack of trust is coming from, because that's your limiting factor right now. Until you rid yourself of it, you won't find (or keep) a good woman because you'll undermine it with your fears.

And also forget about your need for "sooner" or having a timeline. If you could look into a crystal ball and see that you wouldn't get married until you were 50, what would you do?

Go on living your life, learning, and improving at being an Alpha Man.

That's all you can do. Getting married doesn't change that. It's just a legal document that works about 50% of the time.

My guess is that you're placing too much importance on finding a woman rather than finding your purpose here on this planet. Paul Coelho describes it as your Personal Legend.

I call it your Alpha Man destiny.

You must find it - and it's not a woman.

You can learn how I found mine here: Secrets of the Alpha Man

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