Watch out for the Rebound Girl - she'll damage your Alpha Man self confidence

First I'll start by congratulating you for your work. Your analysis of dating dynamics is truly right.

Your paper allowed me to understand what I was doing right and what had to be improved...and it works.

Recently I met a girl who is really very sweet to me.

The problem is she already has two kids from two different dads and she's giving the impression to fall for me after she's left her latest boyfriend 60 days ago. She's 25 and stayed 5 years with her last boyfriend with whom she had that last kid. She's telling me that her boyfriend told her to move on and find somebody else and she's suspecting him to have a new girlfriend for who she seems jealous about (without openly mentioning it to me of course).

The thing is she's really playing it sweet with me so I can't tell if she's just looking for a replacement, if she's trying to make him jealous or if she really likes me. She comes from a wealthy family and has a job with relatively high responsibilities so I don't think she's got any particular social behaviour problems.

I like being with her because she doesn't live far from my place she's very sweet to me n shows it by taking good care of me. Is she not playing a dangerous game with her last boyfriend, isn't it a little too soon to begin a new relationship right after a long intense one. She just moved in the neighbourhood so maybe she is just looking for some sort of security whatsoever.

What's ur opinion, thx

FRED from Belgium.
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CARLOS ANSWERS:

I see some red flags here, and I hope you do, too.

This woman has had 2 children from 2 different fathers with no apparent desire to get into a long-term relationship. She also seems to either have a highly elevated need to mother, or she's just unaware of this thing we call BIRTH CONTROL.

Hey, I'm not judging her, but let's call 'em like we see 'em, shall we? When you add this red flag to the next one, you've got a scary situation.

Her need to get into another relationship sounds like classic REBOUND behavior. She doesn't have the self-esteem to be alone, so she jumps from relationship to relationship to keep her insecurity at bay.

Look, some of the advisors out there are too weak to say this sort of thing, but I'm going to tell you what I think: Don't date her.

Find someone without all this baggage.

And please don't make your relationship choices based on proximity and opportunity. That shows me you're just taking what you can get.

Instead, CHOOSE the woman you want.

Don't date by default, guys. That's scarcity thinking.

The ALPHA MAN makes his opportunities.

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