The evolution begins...

Hey C,

I lightly studied your material for almost a year now, but in the last 2 months or so i've taken to it much more seriously. mainly because one of my friends brothers is a very good PUA, once we became friends he pushed me a long a bit and has helped to improve my confidence a lot and my outer game skills, and with closer look at your material (The Dating Black Book, the Seduction Method, the audio coaching sessions and newsletters) i have seen better and better results and feel a massive boost to my own self confidence. You were certainly right about having a good wingman improving your game a lot quicker than on your own..

Anyway to my question, my older friends think that i am not changing for the better because i can't seem to have a good time going out unless i'm interacting with women. Now this is great in terms of motivation for improving my game, but they think that i'll become like my friends brother constantly torn between several girls at a time (doesn't sound so bad to
me!).

While i love being with women and enjoy all aspects of the game from a successful seduction to a crash and burn and coming away with experience, i can see their point that i used to go out and have a good time without any of that being necessary and maybe its unhealthy if i'm becoming too reliant upon it? or perhaps they are just exaggerating because of jealousy.

Your opinion would be greatly appreciated Carlos, at the end of the day all i want (like everyone) is long term happiness, but i'm doubting which route i should take.

Yours,
E
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CARLOS ANSWERS:

Let's be clear that every man has his own path to walk. Other people can give us all the suggestions they like, but the reality is that there are things in life we need to learn by EXPERIENCING them. We can't be told about them.

Getting better with women is one of those things.

So in short, no matter what route you take, do not DOUBT. If you are going to make a mistake, do it whole-heartedly. Give it all you got.

Most guys are running around out there doing their best to avoid failure, not realizing that failure is how we learn. If you didn't fail a hundred times when you were learning to walk, you would never have learned. you would still be crawling.

I can tell you that you do need balance in your life, and you should be doing more than JUST pickup with women. But if that is what is giving you short-term happiness, then you're not in a bad place. This is just where you need to be.

Eventually, you will evolve past needing to just go out and meet women. Especially if you find one that is worth keeping around for a while. But for the time being, follow your heart and your own internal compass, and learn to trust it.

If you get too caught up in second-guessing your actions, always worried about whether you're making a mistake, then you're always going to feel like you're doing something wrong. You'll always feel like you're holding back.

Your friends are probably concerned in one way, and jealous of your dedication in another. Just remember that the ALPHA Man knows that his path is his own. If he runs around worried about what other people think, he'll never fully live his own life, just the expectations of others.

If you want to know more about how to live this lifestyle, take a look here: Secrets of Inner Game and True Self-Confidence.

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