Geeks Rock...

Hey Carlos,

Here's an interesting question. I work in the IT industry and also have interests in the literary community. Outside of my relationships I began writing a 'blog' which has become quite popular among friends, family and a few extras I picked up along the way. I enjoy doing it as an exercise to keep my creative and writing skills honed.

The other day, one of my co-workers was ribbing me about my single status and said "The kind of girls you're trying to attract would never go out with a guy who has his own blog!". I know he was being an ass but it still struck a chord with
me... could he be right?

I am currently dating a girl who doesn't know about my 'online presence' and frankly could care less about the Internet in general. She's a sophisticated career woman who's said (when speaking about my career) that she likes guys who are just *a little* geeky. So far things with her are
actually going really well. But I am a little concerned about one of her friends 'Googling' me and sending her a link to my blog.

It's not that there's anything on there to be embarrassed about, it's just never really come up in conversation and it's not something I generally mention to people who wouldn't otherwise be interested. Part of me wants to shut it down rather than risk her judging me as a 'geek' because I have a blog and we don't really know each other all that well yet. Then again, she may not even care. This dilemma could apply to any interest though really - not just blogging. What do you think?

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CARLOS:

Think about it: It's all about SPIN.

I date women all the time, and I let them know about what I do for men. Now, can you imagine how that could be viewed? It's all in your attitude. If you try to hide this part of you, it will slowly erode your Alpha Attitude.

Instead, Bring it out in the open and make her want you BECAUSE you have a Blog.

Do not curtail your interests to avoid an assumption on her part. Instead, project it as a passion of yours, and demonstrate that it's not just a "Blog," it's your voice to the world.

Poeticize it. Make it sound lofty and ambitious.

Then tease her that she should have her own or she can't hang with geeky guys.

I bring up my geekiness all the time as a way to display vulnerability, and it's something I'll be covering very soon in the Advanced Audio Coaching. You should subscribe... :)

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