LOSING THAT VIBE:

Carlos, I realized recently a sticking point I have when meeting a girl at a party and such.

At first I feel a little nervous, but push myself to approach and do a good job. Building rapport easy, making them laugh, and getting an awesome vibe. The thing is, when I leave to talk to other people and come back to the girl later in the night, the good vibe I had is gone and she grows a bit more distant.

Is there a reason for this? What can I do about it next time?

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CARLOS:

The distance you feel is PERCEPTION. And as a result, you're falling victim to losing your frame. You're letting her attitude change YOUR attitude.

BAD.

Look, the reality is that college girls are about as consistent as the stock market in terms of mood and interest. When you have her buying temperature up, you better do something about it then. Otherwise, she's off to the next shiny object, mixed drink, or dynamic guy, and you have to rebuild from scratch.

You lose her state when she has a chance to disconnect. This is why so many women flake on guys. They don't have any investment in the interaction, so they can flake anytime and not feel like they lost anything.

Make it a point to reconnect regularly, and sink that battleship, Amigo!

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