FRIENDS PIT OF HELL:

Hi Carlos,

First, I want to say that the Alpha Man principles I've applied to my life have had a profound change on me. I walk with more confidence, I talk with conviction, and I've been dating more than I ever have. Now, I'm no master, and have yet to finish reading the Dating Black Book, so I know I have much room to grow.

Here's my dilemma: last summer I reconnected with an old friend, one I dated off and on since 1983! We never hooked up as a couple, and in fact I videotaped her wedding for her 14 years ago.

Fast forward to today. Over the holidays we really started seeing each other a lot. We would kiss hello and goodbye, and get real cozy holding hands. She would say things like "I love you" and "I adore you" in our phone conversations. Last weekend she had me over for dinner and we cuddled on the couch afterwards. She offered me her son's room to sleep over, and when she went to kiss me goodnight, I gave it more than usual.

The next morning she asked about it, and said she never thought about us as more than friends.(???) I said "Maybe you should" and she replied "I'll think about it". My question is; how, if at all, can I break out of that "friend" status? We're already doing a lot of things that couples do. Am I just the "stand-in" boyfriend until someone more at tractive comes along?

Thanks,
K
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CARLOS:

Tell you what, finish the Dating Black Book, because I talk about this in there.

The friends pit is not worth pursuing. It's the damage zone. You lose face, self-esteem, and confidence trying to pull you and her out of it.

Go meet 10 women, and get to the point of making out with them. I guarantee you that you'll find this one slipping to the back of your head as you eradicate this scarcity frame from your mind.

Start thinking big. Think about the MILLIONS of women you have yet to meet.

Don't go down old roads, no matter how familiar they seem. They still lead to the same place.

And the more desired by other women you are, the more she'll want you.

Trust me...


PS: Yeah, I think you are her "groupie." That's a guy she keeps around until the one she wants to actually sleep with shows up.

PPS: "Think about it" is definitely NOT what you want her doing. You want her FEELING it. Right here, right now, with you. THAT is how attraction is formed. You can leave her with an achy sensation of missing you, and that's the way for her to think about you, but the reality is that she isn't going to rationally decide she wants you. It will happen when she's so turned on she just can't stand the thought of it.

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