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Carlos Gives You the Truth About Dating and Attraction... Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
I have something really interesting to share with you. It's an insight you're going to find incredibly valuable if you want to improve the quality of your life... You're probably already aware that you've only got a fixed number of years here on this planet. For some of us, you've got a lot of years. For others, it might only be a few. But you won't know for sure which camp you're in until the Grim Reaper comes to pay your check and escort you out the door. In reality, no one REALLY knows how much life you've got left, or what happens after it. For the sake of our discussion today, I'm going to guess you're somewhere between 20 and 40 years of age. That means you have about 40 to 60 years left to go for a healthy adult. So if you knew you had only a fixed amount of time here, and you'd eventually be yanked out by the Universal Bouncer, how would you CHOOSE to spend that time? The problem is, most of us don't really notice that there IS a deadline out there. And it's closer than you think. I don't want to get all "doom and gloom" on you with this stuff, but this is important, so stick with me. There's a quote on the show "The Sopranos" that stuck with me. It went something like this:
"A man has good times and some really bad times in his life. And he just tries to find his pleasures where he can."
Let me ask you this: Would you CHOOSE to live your life in fear? Probably not. But that's what a lot of guys are doing. I can guarantee that you're doing it in a few areas of your own life. You might not think of it as "choosing" to live in fear, but by not taking ACTION to remove the feeling from your life, you're choosingby DEFAULT. A recent article I saw pointed out the way in which risk and fear work together: The risks that get excessive attention versus which get overlooked depends on a hierarchy of factors. One of the most important is DREAD. For most creatures on earth, all death is created pretty much equal. Whether you're eaten by a tiger or fall off a cliff, your time in the herd is over. That's not the way humans see things, though. We have the gift (and curse) of being able to contemplate our mortality. The more suffering or pain something causes us, the more we tend to fear it; the cleaner (or, hopefully, quicker) the death, the less it troubles us. "We dread anything that poses a greater risk for cancer more than the things that injure us in a traditional way, like an auto crash," says Paul Slovic, professor of psychology at the University of Oregon. "That's the dread factor." In other words, the more we dread, the more anxious we get. The more anxious we get, the less precisely we calculate the odds of a particular event actually happening to us. The term for this is "probability neglect." This happens in your life when you start to dread approaching a woman. You know what I mean, right? We habituate - or start to ignore - any unpleasant stimulus, from pain and sorrow to your neighbor's screaming baby. But in the case of approach, we keep feeling all tied up and sick in our stomachs when we can't just go over and talk to that hot blonde. Why? Why don't we let go of this fear and get over it? There are two primary reasons. The first is because of UNCERTAINTY. We feel uncertain in every interaction with a woman, and when a guy puts his self-worth out there in the form of a woman's acceptance or rejection, we never get used to the risk of getting our egos bruised. This risk/uncertainty is due, in a large part, to the fact that most guys don't go into an approach without figuring out A) a comfortable way to start the conversation, AND B) a comfortable way to END the conversation. You see, if you have both of those taken care of (I call them 'bookends') then you'll have no problem getting out of a conversation when you run out of steam. In other words, you won't fear a situation that has minimal uncertainty in it. Or, as I like to say...
CARLOS' RULE: You can handle any situation if you can manage the uncertainty of it to a minimal level.
The second reason we don't get past our fear is that so few men ever DEAL with it and destroy it. Any fear you face will diminish your dread of it. You're just stuck on the wrong side of the dread, mon. Now let me get back to my original point and tell you how this can help you ... The reality is this: You're probably not going to die anytime soon. The odds aren't there. So you've probably got a good chunk of time on your hands. But even if you live for EIGHTY more years, do you want to spend them NOT KNOWING how to approach and attract women consistently and effectively? Without fear? Do you want to continue as you are? Blinded by ego? Crippled by your mental blind spots? Or are you prepared to make the next 40-60 years of your life into something FANTASTIC. Are you prepared to get MAD GAME with women? How about success that is almost CRIMINAL. Remember the last time you saw a guy walk up to a woman and start a conversation, and you sat back kicking yourself for not doing it, or wondering how the heck HE did it. Yep. If you're going to hang out on this pebble called Earth for a little longer, you might as well spend your time doing something worthwhile. It's time for you to kill the DREAD and learn how to approach and attract women - NOW. Before you let your fear take over again, I want you to go take a look at this. It's perhaps the most important thing you will do for your dating life. Go take a look at this. NOW. Click
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-Carlos
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