CARLOS XUMA'S DATING ADVICE NEWSLETTER:
Women Just Flock To Him ...
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Friday, 8:20 AM:
Have you guys seen "300" yet?
I highly encourage you to do so. It's an incredible Alpha
Man flick, with a great amount of valor, battle sequences, yadda
yadda...
But one thing I want to caution you about that was brought
to my attention from a friend: The representation of Persians as being monsters,
or creating these monsters and perpetrating them as an evil image is not a
good thing to project forward into today's world. Yes, I know it's a fantasy
story from Frank Miller, and it can be taken purely on its merits as a fun
film (which is what I did when I first saw it.)
But realize that there are some negative things in the
stereotyping of the Persians in this film.
Not familiar with what "Persian" is? Basically it's a
subset of the people of Iran.
Now, as
a teacher and a responsible Alpha,
I like the message of male strength in this movie above all else. What I want
every Alpha out
there to realize when you watch "300" is that you must take with your viewing
a responsibility to filter your perception through intelligent thought. Beware
of stereotyping by race and leave the fantasy behind. This is a movie about
bravery and valor.
And my most treasured trait of the Alpha
Man: HONOR.
I've been guilty of stereotyping women many times,
and eventually, after I learned how they work in intimate detail, I found
a healthy balance.
I hope you do, too.
Now, on to the newsletter...
QUESTION: Natural Game
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Carlos,
Not to beat a dead horse or anything, but I gotta tell you about my roommate
because I want to understand more about what he is doing and how he is doing
it.
First off, he's a great guy and one of my best friends here at school. He's
got my back to the very end and I don't doubt it for a second.
But, everywhere we go... and I mean EVERYWHERE, girls flock to him... literally.
We'll be on the street, hot girls just stare at him. We'll be at a party or
a bar, hot girls approach him, now imagine that! I think you know where I'm
going with this. He is a good looking guy and all, but it's got to be something
more than just that.
Bottom line is I WANT HIS RESULTS! And, I want to know how he achieves them.
Advice?
Paul
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Yeah, don't we all, Paul.
When we see a 'natural' - a guy who is naturally
attractive to women - we
sometimes fall into the mistaken belief that he's got something magical -
an ability that must surely make him a holy being. (Yeah, I'm exaggerating,
but not far from what you're thinking in your head if you get down to it.)
Again, it's a comparison trap that you can fall into when you look at another
person and want THEIR results.
You CAN'T have his results specifically. It's chasing something you can't
control right now, and it will actually lower your ability.
The guys that WANT to have a certain result, like a specific football player's
ability, or a politician's social skill, rarely accomplish it. The ones that
get the result are the ones who focus SPECIFICALLY on THEIR
OWN development
and growth. Because that's where it all starts.
I don't want to get too caught up in the mechanics, because the mindset is
10 times as important. If you're chasing another person's results, even if
you think that's what you want for yourself, you're going to hurt your game,
because you'll always have a standard set that is not your
identity, and it
undermines your sense of self worth at that moment because you're not achieving
it.
Even if you want to use him as some kind of benchmark
of your own performance,
it will not help.
So you want to know what his attraction
secret is?
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Here's his secret:
1) He's
physically attractive, so he's got a flashy lure. Women will be drawn
in by the appearance. This is good only for about 30 seconds, while she waits
to hear what comes out of his mouth.
2) He's
got a good image. I'll bet he's got a style of appearance (clothes,
hair, etc.) that makes him look good.
3) He's
got a charismatic attitude. He's persuasive, and he can communicate
well.
4) He's
not giving off subtle pings of insecurity and instability with his mannerisms,
speech, and body language. These tend to come out on their own when
you're not paying attention to your inner game and your state of mind.
5) He's
not focused on being like or doing as well as anyone else. He's surrendered
to the present moment and accepted things RIGHT NOW.
As they are, good, bad, or indifferent. He rolls with it.
I guarantee you that anyone that's good
with women and confident with women has learned these strategies and has given up the need to compare on any level.
You can only sell your product when you're convinced of its value. You don't
see anyone selling their goods or services while dumbstruck in awe over their
competitors, do you?
This is the essence of Charisma. And the secrets of compelling
communication and persuasion are easy to learn.
I cover the complete ins and outs of handling difficult
people in my Alpha
Man Conversation & Persuasion
program.
QUESTION: The
Problem Isn't The Question
...
It's Philip. I am in a very severe situation right now. About a month ago
I sent an email to (another advisor) to give me some tips about how to pick
a girl from a disco quickly, because within 3 days I had a disco but.......
NO REPLY!! and I used to see these hot chicks at the disco, staring at them
without even knowing how to approach them, etc......
I was very angry but then I subscribed to your VERY HELPFUL newsletters and
decided to ask you whether you could give me some tips on how to pick girls
from a disco/party....... p.s: unfortunately I am a very bad dancer, will
that make it impossible for me ???
Wish you could give me a fast reply because I have a disco VERY soon so I
would be extremely glad and satisfied if you could help me out.
-P
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
You're going to be surprised at this answer, because at
first you're going to stomp your feet and be mad that I didn't seem to answer
your question, but I'm actually answering what you really need answered. (By
the way, nice ass-kissing at the start of your email...)
Underneath your question is an answer that is far more
important.
First, understand that guys don't need to dance well.
If you just sway back and forth with her, you'll do fine. She's dancing
for attention and expression, not to create a music video.
Now, the real problem isn't getting tips on how to pickup girls at a disco/party,
or dancing.
The problem is that you're in such a rush and you
feel like it's so urgent that you get this "quick", and then when
you don't get what you want, you react with anger.
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You can go out any night of the week and dance. And even if it were only
every other week, you'll have plenty more of these to go to in the future.
By thinking that you gotta get help right this second, you're creating something
called false urgency. Sometimes false urgency is good, but in most guys it's
often very misguided and misplaced. It creates the
illusion of scarcity. And
you'll understand why this is something for you to take care of in my program.
This is a small example of how a lot of dating advice
for men out there is going wrong. They're focused on fast "seduction" rather
than correcting the misguided belief systems that guys have created.
Let me say it once - and trust me, I know what I'm talking about here: If
you do not address your inner AND outer game issues together, you will still
be back here with me working on the inner game later. Only then it will be
much harder because you'll have thrown a lot of good advice on top of a bad
attitude, and you'll slow your progress down.
You see, if I just gave you "tips," like
be a bit more aloof, talk about interesting subjects, etc., you'd just use
them with no understanding of the mindset you need to have to apply them
correctly.
Giving out "tips" alone is irresponsible.
Giving you tips that mesh with an Alpha Attitude is what you need to be
a REAL man.
If you want to learn more about this concept, I
suggest you learn about REAL GAME …
The Alpha Man.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying
my own inner psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things
make a difference and ...
...I will genuinely help you
improve your inner game with women.
When a woman senses that you've got passions and direction
in your life - even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
Click here
right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
Discover your inner Alpha
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Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
Learn more about R.E.A.L.
Game ® and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man: Take a look
at the original program that will put you on the path - Alpha
Immersion. This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
Man program that gives you the REAL Game with women.
Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
my advice and strategies ...
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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"The difference between
great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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