CARLOS XUMA'S DATING ADVICE NEWSLETTER:
Getting Her Secrets ...
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Friday, 2:20 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk
You know, I think that guys unnecessarily complicate their
lives. A lot.
Hey, I'm one of them. Guilty as charged.
It's rare that I let my life just idle by on it's own
momentum. I really get excited by the prospect of taking the bullet train
of my destiny and putting it on different tracks from time to time. Sometimes
I change tracks
Like I just got this really cool HD camcorder. I intend
to start using it for the Advanced Coaching program, and I've already got
some great stuff to hit you guys with that are lucky enough to be on the program.
That's fairly innocuous and small, but there are other
wilder things at play in my personal life that would make a soap opera look
like 45 minutes in line at the grocery.
But this is necessary. It's part of my growth as a person
and my self-improvement. I have to experience new and uncomfortable situations
to learn how to handle life.
You see, I spent most of my life avoiding situations that
I couldn't handle. And after a while that caught up to me, where I was socially
clueless and pretty much a lost cause with women. It was like someone had
injected "wuss" syndrome into my bloodstream. It took me years to flush it
from my system.
I really think that learning how to welcome the uncomfortable
and the different is a critical success factor in life.
All I say every morning now is "bring it on!"
On to the newsletter...
QUESTION: Getting
Personal
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Hey Carlos...
How do I get a woman to talk about personal things?
There's this girl I've been talking to about a year. We've only hung out
a couple of times though. Today she called me and we were talking for like
40 minutes. I then asked "Can
I ask you something personal?" She said no. I told her what's the point
in being friends if we can't share personal information. She said "So
you don't wanna be my friend anymore?" I paused for a minute then told
her to call me back.
And every time I ask her to come over she says why don't
I come over there. She also said that she doesn't even share personal information
with her mother. I think I messed up with this chick a long time ago. After
all she stole something from me and denied it, plus she has a boyfriend who
she really doesn't want to be with. Any advice?
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
First of all, when you think that you messed it
up, you probably did.
Don't even bother asking me how to "get her back
again." I've
already provided THE definitive answer on this topic. (It's
in my archives, go and search 'em.) You're chasing your own failure's tail,
and you're making your state worse and worse the longer you believe you can
redeem yourself.
By the way, you failed her test.
Which test?
When
she asked you that question about not wanting to be her friend, you should
have said, "My friends are open,
vulnerable, and trusting. I don't feel that from you." Then you hang
up and wait for her to call you back. If she doesn't, nothing lost.
Alpha Men don't NEED women. They exist
on their own continuum of honor and integrity. And STANDARDS.
CONTINUED...
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Speaking of which, you should be smacking yourself in
the head right now. She stole something from you?
This is the character of woman you want in your life? A thief?
Come on, man, have some freakin' standards! You associate with low-quality
trash like this and guess what effect it will have on your life?
The single most important decision in your life will be the woman you choose
to ally yourself with.
- Choose well and you will live long and prosper.
- Choose poorly and your life will spiral the drain, and you will wish for
a quick death.
I'm not f***ing kidding, my friend.
You're in a reactive state with this woman. This is where you're trying to
GET her to GIVE to you. You can't do this in any area of relationships. When
you do things to GET... (gimme gimme
gimme, get get get) your motivations
are flawed and you sabotage the machine.
If you do things based on principle
and rightness of action, you will succeed
far more, and live a higher quality of life overall.
So instead of trying to get a woman to tell you personal things...
FIRST, ask
yourself why
you need to know. I believe it's probably because
you want what she won't give you, not because you really care. You're challenged
by her distance and aloofness.
SECOND,
ask yourself why a woman would NOT want to tell you personal
facts on her own.
In those two thought exercises you will find the seeds of your answers. You
see, she didn't tell you because she did not TRUST you, and THAT is the your
real problem.
And it sounds like she's got trust issues in general if
she won't talk to you after a year, or talk to her own mother. (Two words:
Damaged Goods.)
Now if you're in the mood to quit this reactive
game of "can I get her
to be my puppet and do my bidding," I suggest you find
out how to get REAL
game with women.
QUESTION: Tired
of bad attitudes from hot chicks ...?
Carlos - I bought your
course about a year ago and it has moved my inner
(and outer) game light years ahead.
In the past few months, however, I have come to
be very dissappointed in the personality traits of the "9's" and "10's" (we
are talking looks here) I have been seeing. I have opted for just hanging
with my friends (male and female). I seem to be happier this way, more comfortable
in my skin when I am with my friends.
Am I missing something? Is this a phase? Am I wrong
for wanting to duck out of the game for a while, or is this a necessary
'breather"?
Some feedback from the master sure would help.
Thanks,
Scott in Louisiana.
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
I share your disappointment, my friend.
The sad fact is that when you're dealt a great hand in the genetic poker
game, you often start to take your situation for granted. Girls who are attractive
rarely have to do any real work to gain anyone's approval or favor, so they're
automatically assigned high status.
The trick is for us as guys not to become too jaded by this fact, and instead
re-define what it is we're looking for.
You see, if you're looking for "completion" from
a woman in any way, you're going to be disappointed.
SEVERELY disappointed.
Women are not an "end," or even a goal, but merely another
satisfying part of a successful lifestyle.
CONTINUED...
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Every guy has become disillusioned at some point, and
had to learn new skills to revive our interest in the "game." One
of those skills is BALANCE. You need to feel that you're already fulfilled
first, and then proceed to renew the chase.
Something that guys commonly gain from my Secrets
of the Alpha Man program is a new perspective on women, which
usually leads to greater internal fulfillment and success over the long
haul. Just another of the fringe benefits of living a quality Alpha
lifestyle, not just chasing T&A around all the time.
Hang out with your friends for a while. But eventually, that old sexual drive
kicks in and you'll need to get back to it.
Trust me, every guy does.
There are quality women out there, but you need to dig a little to find them.
That's more reason you need good attraction skills to be the one to do the
choosing, not BE chosen.
If you want to learn more about this concept, I
suggest you learn about REAL GAME …
The Alpha Man.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying
my own inner psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things
make a difference and ...
... I will genuinely help you
improve your inner game with women.
When a woman senses that you've got passions and direction
in your life - even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
Click here
right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
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Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating and seduction.
The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching
men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal
belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the tactics and techniques
in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like
learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos
Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner
game.' From there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching
women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in
this game to win it, these are the rules you
need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
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Game ® and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man: Take a look
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Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
my advice and strategies ...
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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