Carlos gives you the straight Truth...

  NEWSLETTER August 22, 2006

Dating Advice for Men: The Dating Truth

Curing Your Confusion ... With No Delusion.

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QUESTION:

Hey C,

I have a kind of one-itis i've never had before, this time because its over a guy (no not in the gay sense!). He's my best friend and kind of a mentor, he's been the one to help improve my confidence and put your techniques in to practice. We also work together and can make a great time out of anything.

Anyway we are from England but he's moving to Canada for 8 months and i'll probably be only able to see him once if at all. He leaves tomorrow and its only just hit me and i feel awful. This is definitely worse than one-itis overy any kind of girl.

You're definitely right about good male friends being much more important than women. Only problem with this one-itis i have no idea how to cure it, feels like a part of me is being taken away and i have the fear that without his encouragement I'll return to my former less confident self.

What can i do C? please help me out.
- E from the U.K.

CARLOS ANSWERS:

Yeah, it sucks when someone you've grown close to takes off. I've recently lost a person I thought of as my close friend. His marriage apparently did not include space for old friends, so I no longer see him. C'est la vie. It hurt, but I got over it.

It was HIS loss.

When guys abandon their friends for a new marriage or girlfriend, it's a big clue to me that he lacked the kind of honor and integrity that would have made him a reliable friend.

And for any of you guys out there snickering at his attachment to a guy, get over your homophobia and realize that connecting with people is a part of what an Alpha Man does. It's not gay; it's the Way of the Alpha.

Remember a few things, though:

1) If your confidence requires anyone outside of yourself, it's not really confidence. Or maybe it is, but you don't realize that the confidence you had with him around really has nothing to do with that person. It was the BELIEFS you had when you were with him.

Get it? He's only enabling you to think of yourself in a different way (i.e., your SELF IMAGE). You need to discover what it was that made your unique pairing work.

2) Realize that the loss of friends is a NATURAL part of life. NOTHING is forever. You are lucky that at least he will be returning in 8 months. Some people leave your life forever. You need to re-frame this event to serve you, not shake your foundations.

3) Also let this experience teach you to "load balance" your friends. In other words, you probably put too much importance on this one friend. Where are your other friends?

(continued ... )

A single point-of-failure in your social network is not a good thing. You always need a backup. (You engineer geeks are probably getting a good laugh out of this analogy...)

Get back out there and replenish your social network.

What would you do if this was a woman?

You'd go out and meet 10 more, that's what you'd do.

Why should this be any different?

Well, Carlos, I just moved back into school and got settled into my new apartment. It's been a slow couple of days, although I have been keeping busy, but I had a girl over last night who I talked to a few times over the summer and I knew was attracted to me.

We hooked up, a little buzzed from a couple of drinks and she said and did some stuff that got me thinking she is very possessive.

She wants to cook me dinner and made mention of being together and all this crap I hope was only drunk blabber. Furthermore, I think I realized after I "finished" my business, I really
didn't want anything to do with her. I almost immediately lost all attraction for her.

I don't want to be an asshole, but if she persists and continues to call me which she said she plans on, how can I get her off my back? Geesh... look what your material has done to me. :)

Thanks,
P

CARLOS ANSWERS:

This is your opportunity to tell her "Hey, I think you're cool, but I think we should just be friends..."

And she'll probably STILL want you.. And you can then have more social proof with the other girls at school .... She'll be chasing you, and all the other gals will be wondering what you've got...

Whatever you do, be nice, because she could be psycho. You don't want to wake up and be in some lame teenage horror movie. Treat her the way you'd want to be treated.

Trust your instincts. Most guys don't, and that's why they have problems down the road.

And if you guys want to learn what he did to hook this gal so quickly, take a look HERE

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QUESTION:

I'm taking a class where there happens to be a lady whose always wanted to hook me up with her daughter that is a year older than me (24). We finally hooked up and on the second date I was able to not only kiss her but get her in bed, HER bed.

The next day I woke up early when she was in the shower getting ready for a doctor's appointment. Not to intrude on her time, I woke up and did her bed and left. She caught me at the door. I said I had to leave because something came up and hugged her and bounced.

The next day, I wrote her an e-mail telling her how much fun I had and that we should do it again. Her reply was that my "ops" were "covert" and what I did was "uncouth". I explained that I was trying to not intrude on her time. But, I haven't heard from her since.

Where did I go wrong, and what is necessary to do in order to save what's left and work on it, IF anything there actually is something left.

CARLOS ANSWERS:

I'm not sure what that whole comment about 'covert ops' and 'being uncouth' was about, but here's the plain truth:

You got everything she wanted to give you.

Congratulations, you did nothing wrong.

In her book, you two had a fun time and that's all she wanted. She's not looking for romance and a long term relationship in this. If she tries to shift any of the blame to you, it's in an attempt to maintain her self-image as a "nice girl." A "good girl" who "never does this sort of thing."

Now YOU are turning into a stage 3 clinger. Meaning, the more you try and make something out of what she considered just a fun time, the more hopeless, needy, and desperate you appear.

The reality is that if you have the right attitude, quick sex isn't what you're trying to get. ESPECIALLY if you had any hopes to continue seeing her. Women often divide their dating into two areas: the fun and get freaky guys, and the stable "boyfriend" guys.

(continued ... )

Congratulations. By being so darn good with my dating strategies, you managed to build attraction with a woman and have a hot night of fun. Wow, that must suck. Just goes to show you that we're never content...

What will happen next is that you'll either move on, or you'll start to stalk her because you feel a false sense of challenge.

I hope you'll make the right choice...

And it's probably time you learned how to make the right choice on this, too.

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