CARLOS XUMA'S DATING ADVICE NEWSLETTER:
A Bad-ass Babyface ...
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
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QUESTION: When
her brother calls, it's not good ...
I got flaked on yesterday one hour and thirty mintues
before a date by her brother calling me up on her cell phone and telling
me her mom took her "out
of town" and she was really sorry she couldn't make it.
The whole thing seemed fishy to me...
So, I did what I thought was the alpha male thing and sent her this email:
...OUCH!
I can honestly say that never happened to me before now. What a way to drop
a hint.
But if for some crazy reason that was serious i'd like to know what day next
week you'd like to try for it again.
Otherwise I just don't have any room in my life for someone treats me so
badly like you just did.
You could of at least told me that yourself... and you could of told me a
lot sooner and before I was almost out my door...
Whatever happened to just using the word "no"?
:-P
I figure the more I stand my ground the less of a chance she'll flake on
me in the future. I want to know if you'd handle this situation any differently...
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Well, you might think that she won't flake on you in the future, and you're
partially right. She won't flake on you because she very likely won't want
to see you again.
You see, any woman that feels that she's going to have to face a negative
opinion of herself or negative experience when she deals with you will simply
AVOID SEEING YOU.
Think about it - do you make it a point to hang around people that make you
feel uncomfortable? Nope.
That's why demanding respect like this rarely works. Hey, if you need to
do this to muster up a little SELF-respect, go for it. But don't think it's
going to have the result of making a woman more attracted
to you just because
you 'put her in her place.'
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1. Never rely on a woman to follow through if she's never
actually been out with you before. Double up on your dates. Smart guys don't
gamble on unproven stocks.
2. Her excuse was
lame. If it was true, she should have called you.
3. Never expect a woman to "say no." She
will do whatever makes her feel the best about not
having to go out with you if she doesn't want to go out with you. For her, that's flake.
4. Ignore the incident and get
on with your life. When you react to flakes,
you're telling the world that you don't have much social
exposure and experience (EVERYONE gets flaked on, my friend.) And you're also saying that you take
things like this WAY too seriously, probably because you have a lack of options
in your life.
This change in mindset is critical for getting into an
Alpha Man mindset.
QUESTION: Change
your image ...
I have the Dating
Black Book and Alpha
Man [programs]... Everything
is good. I have learned so much from your work. Thank you...
I
have really changed. I am light years from where I was a few months ago. Lots
of confidence. Lots of numbers. As many dates as I can handle. It has been
terrific...
I am 40 and I have been dating alot of girls that
are younger than me. I almost think I am flying in a "No fly zone".
These girls are all 33 to 38. I think they all want to get married. I am
recently divorced so I am not getting remarried any time soon. I don't tell
them that.
I do the teasing which I have mastered with your
help. All the Alpha Man stuff. I think my problem is my looks. I have a
babyface so I look alot younger than I am. I have dirty blond hair. I have
2 kids.I look like marrying material. I am tall 6'6". I look like a Dad, Husband. I just read "The Rules",
and I know I am in battle with them. They are following these things to a
T.
I need your help. Although, I look like a nice sweet
man, I need to come across as BAD ASS. My looks do not support this. I need
more meanness. Trust me I am pushing these girls around and not being a
wimpy 'nice guy".
What do I do? Am I in the wrong age group? Maybe I should just be focused
on Divorcees.
If I am not clear, please feel free to ask me some questions.
Master, What do I do?
Chris
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
The first thing I'd do is to lose
the attitude of being "in
a battle with them." You're not. You're just falling victim to assuming
that a particular author's take on men and women is the common or prevalent
one. In fact, by viewing yourself as being "in battle" you lose
a lot of the frame you need to attract women, because you feel like an adversary,
not someone they can feel safe with.
Step #1: Get rid of the adversarial approach.
Now, as for looks...
Step #2: Get a little 'Bad' in your image.
There is a way to look baby-face-bad-ass. I was talking
about this with some guys in Vegas this weekend, as a matter of fact.
The key is to leverage your image in such a way that you maximize
your assets, but provide something to contradict this baby-face. What you'll end up with
is something immensely mysterious and alluring to women.
I recommend something that offsets your younger
looks. Try growing in 2 days worth of beard. I regularly skip a day or two
of shaving (mostly because I use an electric, and that tears up your face)
and it gives you a more "rugged" look.
Go out and get some clothes that you would never have worn before. Something
tough.
Then wear it and LIVE it.
Too many guys suffer with their current image, solely because they never
dared to see themselves in any other way. You need to break out of this self-imposed
comfort bubble and become a fully realized man.
You aren't your clothes, or your car, or your job.
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Step #3: Start thinking and talking more like a bad-ass.
Then start to examine your attitude and see where you're still acting like
this image you have of yourself. It sounds to me like you're really still
identifying with your external appearance and it's undermining your efforts
to be this tough guy.
Drop the "push around" routine and just come from a core of bad-ass.
Try imagining yourself having gone through a comic book nightmare and you
ended up looking like Marvin from "Sin City" (Mickey Roarke.)
How would you act then?
How would you behave if you couldn't talk?
Your persona is whatever you want to be in
the moment.
YOU choose.
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"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing
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If you want to learn more about this concept, I
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The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying
my own inner psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things
make a difference and ...
... I will genuinely help you
improve your inner AND outer game with women.
When a woman senses that you've got passions and direction
in your life - even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
A Woman isn't looking for
a MAN - She's looking for a "Situation..."
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
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A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Crappy as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
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Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating and seduction.
The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching
men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal
belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the tactics and techniques
in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like
learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos
Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner
game.' From there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching
women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in
this game to win it, these are the rules you
need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
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reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
my advice and strategies ...
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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