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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
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Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Friday, 2:20 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk
It's been another crazy ride on the Xuma rollercoaster
this week. But I love the sensation of grabbing onto the bar that clamps me
into the car of my life, ready to clankety-clank up the incline to the top
of the hill of life, dropping into that first screaming descent of madness...
Okay, maybe that's a bit heavy, but you get my point.
I really do wake up with a thrill of enjoying life and
everything I do. Don't listen to those negs out there that grumble when someone
else comes into the office or their first class that's upbeat and positive,
and they scowl at you and say, "You're too happy..." or "You're one of those people..."
The grumblers and negs are not the people you want to
consider a positive force for change in your life.
I just got off the phone with a friend in Vegas, and yes,
it looks like everything is ON for a new seminar in Sin City! I'll be giving
you a date soon, because it's coming up, and it will be a closed-door, invitation
only group. We're going to be filming for my next program, and you can bet
your ass it's going to ROCK the house, Boyz!
This is going to be all new material
and concepts for creating an ALPHA LIFESTYLE. Oh, sure, you're going to learn
about getting the babes, but you're also going to learn how to have the LIFE they want to be a part of.
If you want in on this spectacular event, be sure to email
me HERE and get your information to us so we can consider you. Remember, not
every guy is going to get a chance at this.
Stay tuned for more information on WXUMA - The Alpha
Man channel of choice...!
On to this week's newsletter...
QUESTION: When
a Woman Cuts You off
...
I've been listening to the Alpha
Conversation & Persuasion
CD's and trying to do what I hear, and I've gotten a good hang
of it- I mean, I can see and experience the changes already with the girls
and with everyone in general...
Well, I've developed a pipeline of girls to work on and
its going well, I'm talking to them, getting them interested and leaving while
the interest is high ...
She finally
was asking me if I needed anything from Starbucks - though I think that is
only part of her ploy to reel me in because we ran into each other at Starbucks
a week ago and had our first bonding chat.
Anyway- I got the feeling that she wanted to talk to me tonight, but then
something happened when she started talking to someone in front of me, another
girl, about some guy that was calling her for a date- and it all of a sudden
became girl talk- with no adherence to me being there.
So, I finally broke
in and said I couldn't stop eavesdropping about it all, but couldn't hear
all that well and if they'd repeat it for me- in jest. They briefly acknowledged
me but then got back to the tete-a-tete. So, I excuse myself and let them
have their 'girl talk'.
I then got changed and left work- but as I was leaving I was thinking why
I didn't turn back around and talk to her like I think I wanted to.
I was wrong some where- if so, where?
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Yeah, this is a common situation with guys that rapidly spirals out of control.
One minute you're in an interesting conversation with a woman,
the next minute she's talking to someone else and you're frozen
out.
The freeze-out happens not because of any bad feelings
for you, but because she's now found conversation that is HIGHER ENERGY (review
this from the program) and more interesting than yours. In other words, whichever
conversation has the highest excitement and energy level is the one she wants
to be in.
The key to keeping some women's interest is to keep
the conversation amped up to the level where she won't be distracted.
Now, the topics I give you in the Alpha
Conversation & Persuasion
program (use my memory
trick sentence I give you to remember the
most interesting topics to women) work like a champ to keep her
dialed-in.
Some people are just plain rude. They get all caught up in themselves and
their conversation, and they fail to bring others back in.
There are a couple of techniques for dealing with this. One is to simply
call them on it.
Like this:
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You say: "That's rude."
They say "What?"
"Cutting someone out of your conversation like
that. Just when we were having fun!"
OR:
"Hey, before you guys get going, let me tell you
about this crazy thing that happened to me ..."
Deliver it with a little humorous or fun edge so they
don't think you're trying to be a dick. You have to be socially aware here
so that you don't constantly push your way into a conversation where they
are deliberately trying to keep you out.
I had this come up for me at an event on Wednesday night.
I walked over and just sat down to talk with a couple women that were talking.
One of them was being a little bitchy and distant, playing ego games, and
she was doing her best to push me out. The other gal was sweet and nice, and
wasn't pushing me out. Even though they weren't including me, I sat there
in their conversation, sipping my water, TOTALLY CONFIDENT in who I was and
that I was justified being there.
Now this is something they weren't used to, because after
a while, they started to pull me back in. You see, I wasn't nervous or giving
off a vibe of the clueless guy. I was comfortable in
my own space and my own
silence. (If you want to learn this skill, read on and I'll tell you more
about how.)
If the women that you're trying to talk to get indignant,
hey, you just successfully screened out a gal that would have mistreated
you and given you hell down the road. Congratulations!
I cover more Strategies, Tactics,
and Techniques for dealing with this in my new Alpha
Conversation & Persuasion
program. Take a look at it HERE.
QUESTION: How
do you talk to her when she's busy all the time ...?
Carlos my man,
How you goin? Good no doubt. I firstly like to thank you
for writting you for your Dating
Black Book, its taught me a heap, I'm now more
confident, I present myself better and make myself known and I have had great
results.
But I have come across a problem, At my local McDonalds
there is this rather attractive manager. One of my mates used to work there
and so I asked him what he knew about her (just to give me something to work
with before entering a conversation with her) unfortunatly he only remembers
her name and her age and that she has 2 tongue rings (I know - hot, huh).
My predicament is that she is the manager and try as I
might she is always out the back or racing about behind the scenes where I
can't get to her. Now I've been pondering this for sometime and was about
to give up but I want to prove to myself that there is a way to get a girls
number that seems just out of reach.
Carlos how do you think I should go about this and is there anything else
that you know that could help me with similar situations.
Forever in your debt,
Steven in the UK
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Glad to hear you're getting the results. I find
it interesting that guys who apply the knowledge they get always seem to
get the results. The "excusers" (the
ones that can't seem to find the time or motivation to use my strategies)
don't.
The math is simple, really.
But your problem is an interesting one, and one that a lot of guys share.
Let me tell you a story from my past and you'll start to get an understanding
of how I view this:
I went to a local restaurant here in Oakland called "Milano's." (I
think there's one in every city named this.) I was eating with a lady friend
of mine, and our server was very friendly and also pretty adorable. I was
just out of a relationship and looking for a new girl.
Now, I also didn't want to make the friend I was with
feel weird (I can be
VERY forward and direct with women at times), and our waitress
seemed very busy the whole night. Hardly time for me to get a word in edgewise.
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Well, I went about my life that week, but she did manage to stick in my head,
so I made a decision that I had to do something about it. You see, you can
want all you like, but to get requires a little action.
I made a decision on the way home from the dojo one night
to ACT on that
desire. I drove over to the restaurant, asked if she was around. (I got her
name from the receipt. The server is usually listed on it somewhere.)
She came over and I said, "Hey, I wanted to
drop by and say hello. I don't know if you remember, but you were my server
the other night."
She gave me a smile and said she remembered.
"Well, I just thought I'd drop by and tell
you that I thought your smile was wonderful and I'd love to take you for
some ice cream after your shift."
She then told me that she was already in a relationship,
how long, etc. (A lot more explanation than was necessary, which also told
me that she was probably interested if she wasn't attached.)
I said, "No
problem. I just had to come over and try."
She said, "Yes, you did! Thanks."
Now rather than sit around and pine away for my fair damsel, I simply went
out and acted on the desire. I could have waited a couple of weeks, fantasizing
about her, crystallizing her in my head, but instead I decided that I should
ACT on the need and push this to a decision
point.
As a result, I didn't end up with a crushed heart, and despite not getting
her, I felt even more confident after I TRIED.
The moral of the story?
DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO IN ORDER TO TALK
TO HER.
This is the universal attitude of
success. When you commit
yourself to do whatever you must, you will succeed.
You must succeed - because failure is
NOT an option.
Go at a time when the McD's is slow. Ask for the manager.
Go a few paces away from the counter and turn away so she can't draw you
over to the counter; she'll have to come around to you. Smile, take her hand,
and introduce
yourself.
Not hard at all.
If you want to learn more about this concept, I
suggest you learn about REAL GAME …
The Alpha Man.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying
my own inner psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things
make a difference and ...
... I will genuinely help you
improve your inner AND outer game with women.
When a woman senses that you've got passions and direction
in your life - even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
A Woman isn't looking for
a MAN - She's looking for a "Situation..."
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
Click here
right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Crappy as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
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Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating and seduction.
The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching
men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal
belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the tactics and techniques
in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like
learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos
Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner
game.' From there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching
women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in
this game to win it, these are the rules you
need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
Learn more about R.E.A.L.
Game ® and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man: Take a look
at the original program that will put you on the path - Alpha
Immersion. This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
Man program that gives you the REAL Game with women.
Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
my advice and strategies ...
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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