Why Ask Why?

QUESTION:

Why are women so gorgeously, frustratingly contradictory?

Don't listen to their words, watch their actions. Fine. Don't give her what she says she wants, find out what she truly wants and needs and give her these things. Don't be thinking about women all the time, get them to think about you. Have happening things going on in your life and she'll want to be a part of it. Visualize the life you want (incl. if you're honest, the part you might want her to play in it).

Be confident, be light, be serious at the right times, set worthy goals, develop your talents, put your hands up that you were once the Nice Guy and do something about it, make a better life for yourself, achieve, be fun, know how to look her up and down and put her at ease with what your delicious thoughts.

Learn to live with your own imperfections and give acceptance to who you are, while ever seeking to be the best you you can be. Travel, explore, read, enlarge your awareness. Find rapport and attunement with her and let things flow from there, and if she's annoying you or she's up her own arse, just move on.

Say Sorry only at the truly right times, but be humble enough to say it then. Set standards for yourself. Don't make it easy for her; get her to chase you. Don't seek to possess her. Give to yourself, share with others. Do all these things, and more, and, as Louis Armstrong once said, "Look up once in a while" - meaning, say Thank You to your God.

All of this I do. And still I don't quite fully get it with women. Some last thing missing, my brother. While I'm not perfect I'm pretty happy with who I am and the effort put in to make me better.

The work is its own reward. So where to now?

Dan C.
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Remember, to many people, a car's engine is a black box. Most people really don't understand how it works, or why it does, but they still drive cars.

Women are the same way. Once you know how to drive the car, the inner workings - the "why?" - is unimportant. Merely act based on your intuitive knowledge of women's behavior.

Why do you need to know "why?"

Why is the Universe?

This is the "logical and rational" part of your mind thinking that if laws bend or flex or even change, they can't be laws.

Think in grays, not black and whites.

Happiness often comes not from the KNOWING - but from the understanding that you can choose the right kind of ignorance in life to enjoy your existence instead of torture yourself and ignore the present moment.

Even if you knew "why," that would only put you on the path of the next why...

And the next...

"Where to" is HERE.

Go find out what's next on your path of discovery and growth...

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