Why do women dump guys after quick sex?
Carlos,
I just don't get it, it has happened twice in a month, two different women, I started off really well with her, good communication, compitability is there, I don't go gushy mushy with feelings, amazing sex (They initiated the moves) and then all of a sudden they shut me out, no emails, not returuning phone calls, sms, no explaination at all not a single word!
And they fucking do this on the weekend which makes so much more frustrating!!! Now after two calls or sms I give up to preserve my dignity, but this is driving me insane!! MAN HELP ME UNDERSTAND THIS!
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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
Sometimes it's on purpose and real, sometimes it's not.
1. The real problem isn't their doing it as much as how you're taking it. Your first question should be "Why am I this angry and frustrated about this behavior?"
Wrestle the control of your emotions away from other people. They don't have the right - or the ability - to influence them.
2. Try asking them what happened when you do get in contact with them.
Sometimes there is simply no way to predict or control human behavior (as much as we would like to...)
Most often these incidents of flaking out are just a woman's internal defense mechanisms taking over. When a woman has sex quickly with a man, she finds it tough to encounter him again because it reminds her that she might have been a "slut." Even if she was just indulging her own sexual nature.
This is how deep social programming goes.
She felt cheapened and just doesn't want to return to the "scene of the crime." Even if this is all in her head.
Even if you two seemed great together.
Even if you were in a garden of delight whilst pleasuring each other.
In the end, it all comes down to a woman's self-judgment, self-criticism, and self-esteem.
Take heart in the fact that it has nothing to do with you.
In our circle, we call this a "high-quality" problem to have. Most guys are reading this now saying, "You bastard!"
Count your blessings, not your imagined shortcomings.
I just don't get it, it has happened twice in a month, two different women, I started off really well with her, good communication, compitability is there, I don't go gushy mushy with feelings, amazing sex (They initiated the moves) and then all of a sudden they shut me out, no emails, not returuning phone calls, sms, no explaination at all not a single word!
And they fucking do this on the weekend which makes so much more frustrating!!! Now after two calls or sms I give up to preserve my dignity, but this is driving me insane!! MAN HELP ME UNDERSTAND THIS!
______________________
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
Sometimes it's on purpose and real, sometimes it's not.
1. The real problem isn't their doing it as much as how you're taking it. Your first question should be "Why am I this angry and frustrated about this behavior?"
Wrestle the control of your emotions away from other people. They don't have the right - or the ability - to influence them.
2. Try asking them what happened when you do get in contact with them.
Sometimes there is simply no way to predict or control human behavior (as much as we would like to...)
Most often these incidents of flaking out are just a woman's internal defense mechanisms taking over. When a woman has sex quickly with a man, she finds it tough to encounter him again because it reminds her that she might have been a "slut." Even if she was just indulging her own sexual nature.
This is how deep social programming goes.
She felt cheapened and just doesn't want to return to the "scene of the crime." Even if this is all in her head.
Even if you two seemed great together.
Even if you were in a garden of delight whilst pleasuring each other.
In the end, it all comes down to a woman's self-judgment, self-criticism, and self-esteem.
Take heart in the fact that it has nothing to do with you.
In our circle, we call this a "high-quality" problem to have. Most guys are reading this now saying, "You bastard!"
Count your blessings, not your imagined shortcomings.
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