Loaning a woman MONEY?

Hey Man

I meet this girl at a Christmas banquet she lives about 150 200 miles of me or so, she and would like to build a relationship but the distance. The distance has been a issue, I don't fret over it. You know typical stuff, can't meet. Want to meet. When me or her are in each others side of town we can't meet. And if we could, we cant stay long enough, or what not.

We've only meet twice but that can be resolved. Because ironicly I'll be moving to college very soon which is in her area where I'll be living only a few miles from her. She recently went to see family in New England over the weekend I live down South. I'm assuming this has to do with this money issue. I texted her a bunch whoops and hollers like. (Yeah! whoo! yes-yes! )

This evening which I've been in a vibrant mood lately. She text back: "what are you doing" then "can you please loan me some money" so the first thing I though was to pick your brain.

What do I do?...

Thank you Carlos
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CARLOS COMMENTS:

Let me tell you the ONLY reasons I'd loan a woman money....

1) She needed a quarter for the tampon machine...

2) She was my COMMITTED and TRUSTWORTHY partner (i.e., steady girlfriend) and she needed my help...


There are two kinds of "loan" you can have. One is the incidental "loan" of some small amount that you fully expect to never get back. It's really a gift, but calling it a "loan" makes it easier for her to stomach asking you.

Then there is the LOAN of substantial money, which is a bit more of a commitment.

You see, if you have to ask me whether or not to loan the money to this chick, you've already failed my #2 criteria. If you have to ask, you have doubts - and then you should say NO.

She sounds like a gold-digger or a user that's just trying to soak you for a little moola. If you've only been out twice, you're not in any place to loan this chick money - even if you're secretly hoping in your heart of hearts that she might feel like she has to do you once out of obligation.

But you know what that would make her, don't you?

If she isn't coming out to see you and making a significant effort to be with you, she doesn't dig you. You're just another person she can use.

Move on...

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