Carlos in Playboy Magazine

From The Playboy Advisor, p. 38 of the August issue:

CARLOS: "Shame on you guys! In May you told a reader who had asked his wife for a threesome, "You proposed, she declined. Forget it." As a professional dating advisor I tell men not to appeal to a woman's logic and reason but to approach her about their fantasies when she's in a sexually oriented state. When she's cold, a woman will default to her 'that would be slutty' programming, which prevents her from being adventurous." - Carlos Xuma, San Francisco, California.

Their reply:

"It's true that arousal lowers inhibitions, and that plus a little booze is how spontaneous threesomes occur. But here the encounter was being booked in advance. So even if a woman entertains the idea when she's "warm," she has to remain committed after she cools down."

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True, but that isn't what happened with this poor chap since he didn't handle it correctly to begin with.

Not to mention this is an incorrect application of the "no means no" rule. I'd prefer to consider this a delay rather than a denial.

- Carlos Xuma

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