Younger Women and Older Women
Carlos,
What is up man? Been a while (but if I'm not emailing all the time, as you probably know it means you've taught me enough to handle things on my own). However there's a realization I have had that I'd love to hear the explanation of Carlos Xuma style (since you're less about "game" and more about truth and understanding):
Why is it that younger women want to act like they're disinterested (or seemingly want to...have you noticed this??) when older women treat me like I am basically God's gift to women. OK Maybe I am overdoing it by putting it that way, yet I find older women aren't shy at all about voicing their interest, showing it, and are easier to seduce (older being typically 27-45...any older and I'd feel like it was one of my mom's friends)
Any tips (mainly how should I calibrate) to handling these younger gals?
I asked someone else this question and never got an answer, but what's up with when a woman (this happens a lot of places, but say a party, for simplicity) comes by and isn't necessarily talking to you....by will get really close to your side where you're standing (happens also when posted at a club talking to a friend....or she'll just sit by you for seemingly no reason) and just hang out there?
It's when they really close the proximity to you and you almost HAVE to acknowledge them (if she is attractive) or risk being seen as a wussy by her and yourself. Now don't get me wrong because I will act on the situation, yet I've even had a gal do this when she had a bf with her at the party ... I think this is a way of either flirting or some manner of non-verbal communication, as it seems to be a trend in my experiences.
Maybe I just want some validation for what I suspect, or enlightenment (you've always been good at this.) In any case I know it doesn't matter since we're the ones in control of the approach and interaction, it'd be good to understand this though to add to my arsenal of wisdom you've given me to use as recon in the field.
... Much respect.
-Mario
______________________
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
Always remember Occam's Razor.
"The explanation of any phenomenon should make as few assumptions as possible, eliminating, or 'shaving off,' those that make no difference in the observable predictions of the explanatory hypothesis or theory."
You may remember the paraphrasing of this in the movie "Contact" where it's described as "All things being equal, the simplest solution tends to be the best one."
In other words, don't look for anything beyond the obvious if you don't have to.
If a woman purposefully enters your sphere of influence, you - as an Alpha Man - now have permission to expand her happiness to new levels by talking to her.
There's always two ways to interpret any situation - the way that benefits you, and the way that does not.
No one's reality is any more valid than your own, so I choose to interpret and enhance my life by making all events work FOR me.
You should, too.
Yes, when it's intentional on her part, there is likely a desire on her part to meet you. Remember: Women will not actively take the initiative beyond aligning the circumstances. It's up to you to make destiny 'happen' for her.
If she were to walk up and talk to you, that would A) go against her programmed gender role, and B) spoil her feeling of mystery and fate that you two should get together.
I once had a woman complain (on occasion) for 2 months that if she hadn't given her card to me, we never would have gotten together. It is SO ingrained in a woman's mind that things should just 'happen.' (When I clarified to her that I was the one orchestrating the circumstances around her giving me her card, the complaints stopped. She was no longer "responsible." Crazy, huh?)
Younger women are still very caught up in what I call their "Disney Programming." She's still holding to a lot of the expectations of society, such as:
1) She's looking for her knight in shining armor who will sweep her off her feet so she can live happily ever after
2) She has no sexual desires of her own
3) Men are the ones looking for uncommitted sex
4) They must protect their image at all costs
5) If she doesn't resist you in some way, she's a slut
And many many more.
She very likely won't lose her programming until later in life... As a matter of fact, just about the time when her first divorce happens and she realizes that she was pandering to the social expectation placed upon her to appear "virtuous."
When a woman lets go of her need to please anyone but herself, she becomes true to herself, and a better partner for you.
So I agree that your biology will always drive you to want to mate (i.e., "bang") younger women, but your ultimate happiness will lie in finding a woman that is self-aware and mature. In my book, no one should get married until they're either over 30, or reached the state I call 'Alpha Readiness.'
Just catch a woman before she's so negatively jaded that she no longer believes in relationships. :)
You guys will be happy to know that I am now dropping almost all of my other work in favor of creating a new program for you that is going to BLOW YOU AWAY.
You're going to learn some secrets of men and women that NO ONE in the pickup community - or anywhere else - is telling you.
PREPARE YOURSELF.
To get the best head start on my new program, you should make sure you've been IMMERSED at least once.
GET YOUR ALPHA IMMERSION HERE...
What is up man? Been a while (but if I'm not emailing all the time, as you probably know it means you've taught me enough to handle things on my own). However there's a realization I have had that I'd love to hear the explanation of Carlos Xuma style (since you're less about "game" and more about truth and understanding):
Why is it that younger women want to act like they're disinterested (or seemingly want to...have you noticed this??) when older women treat me like I am basically God's gift to women. OK Maybe I am overdoing it by putting it that way, yet I find older women aren't shy at all about voicing their interest, showing it, and are easier to seduce (older being typically 27-45...any older and I'd feel like it was one of my mom's friends)
Any tips (mainly how should I calibrate) to handling these younger gals?
I asked someone else this question and never got an answer, but what's up with when a woman (this happens a lot of places, but say a party, for simplicity) comes by and isn't necessarily talking to you....by will get really close to your side where you're standing (happens also when posted at a club talking to a friend....or she'll just sit by you for seemingly no reason) and just hang out there?
It's when they really close the proximity to you and you almost HAVE to acknowledge them (if she is attractive) or risk being seen as a wussy by her and yourself. Now don't get me wrong because I will act on the situation, yet I've even had a gal do this when she had a bf with her at the party ... I think this is a way of either flirting or some manner of non-verbal communication, as it seems to be a trend in my experiences.
Maybe I just want some validation for what I suspect, or enlightenment (you've always been good at this.) In any case I know it doesn't matter since we're the ones in control of the approach and interaction, it'd be good to understand this though to add to my arsenal of wisdom you've given me to use as recon in the field.
... Much respect.
-Mario
______________________
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
Always remember Occam's Razor.
"The explanation of any phenomenon should make as few assumptions as possible, eliminating, or 'shaving off,' those that make no difference in the observable predictions of the explanatory hypothesis or theory."
You may remember the paraphrasing of this in the movie "Contact" where it's described as "All things being equal, the simplest solution tends to be the best one."
In other words, don't look for anything beyond the obvious if you don't have to.
If a woman purposefully enters your sphere of influence, you - as an Alpha Man - now have permission to expand her happiness to new levels by talking to her.
There's always two ways to interpret any situation - the way that benefits you, and the way that does not.
No one's reality is any more valid than your own, so I choose to interpret and enhance my life by making all events work FOR me.
You should, too.
Yes, when it's intentional on her part, there is likely a desire on her part to meet you. Remember: Women will not actively take the initiative beyond aligning the circumstances. It's up to you to make destiny 'happen' for her.
If she were to walk up and talk to you, that would A) go against her programmed gender role, and B) spoil her feeling of mystery and fate that you two should get together.
I once had a woman complain (on occasion) for 2 months that if she hadn't given her card to me, we never would have gotten together. It is SO ingrained in a woman's mind that things should just 'happen.' (When I clarified to her that I was the one orchestrating the circumstances around her giving me her card, the complaints stopped. She was no longer "responsible." Crazy, huh?)
Younger women are still very caught up in what I call their "Disney Programming." She's still holding to a lot of the expectations of society, such as:
1) She's looking for her knight in shining armor who will sweep her off her feet so she can live happily ever after
2) She has no sexual desires of her own
3) Men are the ones looking for uncommitted sex
4) They must protect their image at all costs
5) If she doesn't resist you in some way, she's a slut
And many many more.
She very likely won't lose her programming until later in life... As a matter of fact, just about the time when her first divorce happens and she realizes that she was pandering to the social expectation placed upon her to appear "virtuous."
When a woman lets go of her need to please anyone but herself, she becomes true to herself, and a better partner for you.
So I agree that your biology will always drive you to want to mate (i.e., "bang") younger women, but your ultimate happiness will lie in finding a woman that is self-aware and mature. In my book, no one should get married until they're either over 30, or reached the state I call 'Alpha Readiness.'
Just catch a woman before she's so negatively jaded that she no longer believes in relationships. :)
You guys will be happy to know that I am now dropping almost all of my other work in favor of creating a new program for you that is going to BLOW YOU AWAY.
You're going to learn some secrets of men and women that NO ONE in the pickup community - or anywhere else - is telling you.
PREPARE YOURSELF.
To get the best head start on my new program, you should make sure you've been IMMERSED at least once.
GET YOUR ALPHA IMMERSION HERE...
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