Can you ever stop self-improvment?
As you know, I've been working vigoriously on my inner game the past 2 years and I actually started going out the begining of 07 but decided to stop because I felt I wanted to work on myself still some more... I have achieved soo fuckin' much man, you dont know. I have tons more autonomy right now (remember when I told you I was working on my independence) and feel terrific overall. I have developed the inner power to work on my thinking and I'm much more in touch with myself now.
Basically, I feel pretty good but there is always more you could work on in terms of your thinking and emotions. I mean when and how do you know when to stop? I definitely feel like I could go on forever and I know that my thinking will never be perfect, but maybe you could give me some advice that could help me out.
For instance, when did you decide to stop working on yourself in terms of your thoughts and perceptions and just decide to start working on the physical things in your life (like working out, going out and building your social circle, etc etc)? Your advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks man.
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
You know, that's a good question, and the answer lies in how we handle the thought process behind it.
First of all, congratulations on getting your life together. Not many guys will take the steps forward to improve their circumstances. They'll wallow in excuses (based in ego) and generally avoid improvement because of their fear of losing their identity, or that by working on themselves that they're somehow inadequate now.
You see, life is not black and white. And even though we as guys would love to just take on ourselves as a project and just complete it so we can move on to other things, it doesn't work that way.
This will either make you very excited or very scared, but:
You will be working on self-improvement your whole life.
That's not a bad thing!
What's important is that you're on the path.
I know it's a tired cliche, but it's not the destination. People are always hoping to finally "arrive" at some better place in their lives, and they end up missing out on the NOW.
Yes, you could go on forever, so that's why you have to learn how to appreciate the moment you're in. Life is nothing more than a collection of present moments that you either paid attention to and savored, or missed because you were too busy trying to get to the next one.
The fact is that I have not stopped working on my thoughts and perceptions. I still work on it every day. You ask this question of when to stop one thing and do another as if working on your inner self can't be done at the same time as your outer self.
Welcome to your world! A do-it yourself project with no end date.
Basically, I feel pretty good but there is always more you could work on in terms of your thinking and emotions. I mean when and how do you know when to stop? I definitely feel like I could go on forever and I know that my thinking will never be perfect, but maybe you could give me some advice that could help me out.
For instance, when did you decide to stop working on yourself in terms of your thoughts and perceptions and just decide to start working on the physical things in your life (like working out, going out and building your social circle, etc etc)? Your advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks man.
______________________
CARLOS ANSWERS:
You know, that's a good question, and the answer lies in how we handle the thought process behind it.
First of all, congratulations on getting your life together. Not many guys will take the steps forward to improve their circumstances. They'll wallow in excuses (based in ego) and generally avoid improvement because of their fear of losing their identity, or that by working on themselves that they're somehow inadequate now.
You see, life is not black and white. And even though we as guys would love to just take on ourselves as a project and just complete it so we can move on to other things, it doesn't work that way.
This will either make you very excited or very scared, but:
You will be working on self-improvement your whole life.
That's not a bad thing!
What's important is that you're on the path.
I know it's a tired cliche, but it's not the destination. People are always hoping to finally "arrive" at some better place in their lives, and they end up missing out on the NOW.
Yes, you could go on forever, so that's why you have to learn how to appreciate the moment you're in. Life is nothing more than a collection of present moments that you either paid attention to and savored, or missed because you were too busy trying to get to the next one.
The fact is that I have not stopped working on my thoughts and perceptions. I still work on it every day. You ask this question of when to stop one thing and do another as if working on your inner self can't be done at the same time as your outer self.
Welcome to your world! A do-it yourself project with no end date.
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