A note to the world...

I got this email from the guy I answered in my podcast last week. I think you should read it, because this is what I want you to watch out for when you get advice from other "gurus" out there.

- Do they listen to you?
- Do they give you a quality answer?
- Are they in it for the $ or for the help they provide to men?

I can only tell you where I stand on those issues, and this guy hit it right on the head:

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Hey Carlos -

WOW! I just listened to the podcast, I can't believe you devoted that much time to my question. It was actually the first time I listened to a podcast. You know what? You're absolutely right, I do ROCK (it means the world to me that you said that by the way, now I know how you feel when guys write to you and say similar things). To be doing what I'm doing only after a month is absolutely something to be proud of, not be discouraged about. And it actually makes complete sense why I was discouraged, I didn't have a goal in mind when I went into the set.

There was a girl that I focused on but I just kept talking/hanging out rather than setting a goal of getting her number and then getting out or whatever other goal. I tried to do too much at once. The mistakes I'm making are absolutely vital to my growth. I am having so much fun with all of this, my attitude is 180 degrees from where it used to be. I have had some success since, 3rd base with a warm contact on the 2nd date, will probably go all the way next time. I was very content with 3rd base and played it perfectly with the push/pull because I know it will happen the next time we go out.

Also, you wanted to know about my buddy who got one of their numbers...you guessed it, she never called him back. I went out with him again last weekend and sure enough, I got  discouraged again. He knows about all this material (because I've tried to help him) but he
will NEVER admit that he could use it himself. He has an excuse for everything. You're absolutely right, his attitude is contributing to bringing down my game. He sucks as a wingman. NEXT! doesn't apply only to women, he's out as my wingman. More learning from my mistakes, god I love this stuff.

I downloaded RSSRadio to listen as I currently don't have iTunes. However, I will download iTunes tomorrow so I can rate the podcast.

I ordered your DVDs this morning so I'm excited to start watching. Although I'd love to attend a seminar in person. I can't make the seminar in Montreal but if you ever have another one in San Fran, I could easily make it....

Dude, you kick ass. If you're ever in Denver, I'd love to go grab a beer with you.

What you said in the podcast means the world to me and is highly encouraging. Thanks again for your response.

Brian
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CARLOS:

I also want guys out there to realize from his previous field report that this reader was discouraged because it seemed his chump friend was getting "success" with the women he was having a tough time with.

Success is highly illusory. What passes for success is often just a lame attempt at saving face and doing what the rest of the flock is doing.

The key to his success is hidden in one sentence: " I am having so much fun with all of this"

Without that attitude, you will not improve in this area - or any area for that matter. Success depends on your having FUN above all else.

Don't be one of the flock.

Lead the pack!

Be a REAL Alpha Man...

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