FIELD REPORT from another ALPHA

Well, I got a fantastic email from one of the guys that attended my March seminar. He just had a fantastic personal victory, and I wanted to share it with you (with his permission, of course.)

As you read this, I want you to put yourself in his shoes, and imagine that it could happen just as easily for you. Though I'm not about any kind of 'get laid quick' scheme here (What's the rush, right?), sometimes what a guy wants is the validation that he's desirable to women. Women want the same thing from men.

Every so often I have to re-assert that Carlos is not about manipulation or deceptive practices. All your encounters with a woman are WIN-WIN.

Read between the lines in his attitude, because even though you might be able to say the words, you have to BE the man that believes them.

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"Hey Carlos,

I know it might seem kind of a small victory, but I all ready succeeded in going home with a girl from the club last night! Definitely worth telling you about.

I used the material from all of your products including: The Dating Black Book, ... The Secrets of the Alpha Man, and Approach Women NOW!

So I go out with 2 of my wingmen to a bar we went to on Saturday, this time dressed how you and CJ said to dress. I felt kind of funny, but I noticed everytime I do dress this way, good things with women tend to happen. (Last time I was approached)

Anyhow my wingman who is learning your stuff was sitting down frozen like I was in the San Francisco seminar at first, asking me about how to approach a set, when I just walked right up, noticed she had 2 drinks and was like, "Got enough drinks there?" She said playfully, "I'm thirsty..." And I replied, "Either that or an ALCOHOLIC"

That got her laughing a bit. She turned out to be married so I moved on. (NEXT as you say in your ebooks and CDs)

They were then doing a contest on stage where the woman who faked the best orgasm got 100 bucks in free drinks. They were calling for other girls so I walked up to another girl and was like, "Quick, quick, get up there...." and she's laughing and like no way. But after I tried to lean in to talk to her again, she leaned away sorta dodging me, then her friend grabbed her and took her a way.

Felt a little sting of rejection, but it's REALLY her eliminating herself right? Besides I could sit down and pick about all of the cognitive distortions about feeling bad about it later and make it better. (One of my exercises to help me maintain self-esteem)

I understood because of the Secrets of the Alpha Man program, as well as the seminar that *I* was the prize, that NO woman could change my value (which I've discovered doing the positive qualities exercise and coming up with 50 real reasons why I am an awesome man for a woman to have in her life) which is not reflected in others opinions of me or how they react to me.

So as you say in your books again, "NEXT!!" Moving on. I went to dance with this girl on the dance floor. Pushed up behind her. She turns around and moved away. I'm like "what the heck??" She says, "I have a boyfriend." And I said, "I was looking to dance, NOT FOR A JOB," and walked away from her. (Kind of a combination of your rebuttal I learned from the Alpha Man program, and other materials I own). "NEXT!"

Finally, I see my final target. I watched from a distance as a guy spoke to her, and moments later walked away after shaking her hand. I asked him, "What happened with her?" He said, "I just asked her name." And he told me her name. (I saw he didn't get that far with her and wanted to know why before I approached, so I could be prepared for that obstacle if she threw it at me.)

She's at the bar waiting for a drink obviously. It is like 1:40ish or so and usually drinks stop at 2 am. I used this fact as an approach. "Are they still serving drinks?" I asked. She said yes. I asked what she ordered. She told me vodka and club soda. "What's your name?" she asks me. "I'll come find you in a minute and we'll talk then." I told her.

(P.S.She told me this hooked her later, and that she at first wasn't planning to give me or any other guys the time of day. She thought I was just brushing her off when I said that.)

She walked off. I got my drink, went over to her. Started busting on her relentlessly. (I think I am getting the whole cocky/funny/tease-to-please thing down.) Seemed like everything she said, I found something to bust on her about.

I'd make comments like, "Oh so this is the part your friend comes and grabs you by the hand and says 'let's go' right?" Made fun of how she broke her shoe earlier saying, "Yeah right, you know you just grabbed it out of the closet like that and threw it on."

Anyways when her friends came up, I was like "Well give me your number." She responds with, "What are you doing tonight." I said, "Not sure YET." And we discussed her coming back to my house. She said give her my number first, and I'm like, "No, it doesn't work that way babe,"

([I used your phone strategy] as you cover in the ebooks and audio programs) so she had to dial her phone after putting my number in to get mine. I'm in my friends car, and she texts me saying "We should get together tonight, we could have some fun." I replied, "With friends or just us?" "Just us..is that OK?" she says. So I call her and get directions and have my wingman drop me off.

At her place I have her feed me a little, so I could get ready for what I knew was coming. I took her into her bedroom, but could tell she wasn't ready at all (Using the "occupation" techniques from The Seduction Method I could gauge this wasn't the right time for that and I would blow it if I tried to push it right there so I backed off a little and adjusted course)

...So I said, "Let's go watch a movie out there." We put on The Italian Job. Had another drink. Started making out. Kissed her a while, and occasionally would do as you said which is stop and say "......(that technique from the Alpha Man program)"

Did that a few times. Then kissed her some more. She was smelling my neck and keeping her face there because I smelled so good to her. (Took Carolyn's advice that night in SF with the cologne which was don't be too bashful with putting it on).

Anyways we did this till she said she was tired. I grabbed her hand and said, "Come on then." leading her to HER bedroom. (This is something your say do in all of your ebooks) Turned off the TV and lights. Did some more making out before undressing her. Then my friend I had my first successful one night stand from the club.

I am now OFFICIALLY back into the game for real.

This is awesome! I hope all of the other guys can see how you can go from an AFC to getting laid in a SINGLE moment once you have the right attitude, techniques, and even more importantly TAKE ACTION. Thanks C.

(P.S. What helped me take action was accepting the consequences of the risk of approaching in advance which was them possibly not being interested. I learned this from the Secrets of the Alpha Man ebook. Big deal if you realize and accept it in advance right?)

-M
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CARLOS:

Man, I'm just... all mushy now...

sniff sniff...

It's like your little Alpha Boy just grew up and took his first step in the big singles world.

Now, I'm not a big proponent of the one-night-stand (after all, if it was worth it once, you should be going back and making it a many-night-stands.) That's not what my advice is geared towards.

BUT I'd be lying to you if I said that while most guys want a meaningful relationship, they also want the ABILITY and power to have this experience as well. Many women desire it, too, but the social constructs around them are different than men, as well as their needs for emotional security and the perception of society.

Something else Carlos tries his best not to be is judgmental.

Still, my man, I'm giving you a locker room high-five. Well done! Especially because I know you needed that boost to your ego.

There's some seriously good stuff going on your report. Let's see if we can review the top points ...

1) You reframed the meaning of the events to something that empowered YOU.

So many guys go out and choose to interpret neutral events (a woman's disinterest is one) as being some statement of his value or a kick in the ego. The reality is that she doesn't know you AT ALL, so any judgment made of you is totally impulsive and probably incorrect.

This is a prime reason for the NEXT rule. It's like shopping for a car. If this lot doesn't have what you want, you go to the next one. It has NOTHING to do with you. The car lot manager did not see you coming and decide to put out his crappy models just for you.

It was circumstance.

Get over it. Move on.

NEXT.

2) My reply for the woman who wouldn't get up on stage for the orgasm contest: "Well, I realize it's probably been a while since you've had a good one, but I bet you're really good at faking them."

3) The sting of rejection (and it's really not rejection, as you might suspect) is nothing compared to the lingering slow death of sitting on the sidelines, growing old, and regretting. You learned this first-hand. Now program it permanently into your experience.

The big mistake a lot of guys make is that they don't internalize these realizations into their belief system.

4) "Oh so this is the part your friend comes and grabs you by the hand and says 'let's go' right?"

EXCELLENT job of inoculation, by the way. You handled what was coming with that girl spot ON. By bringing it up first, you demonstrated that you understood the social dynamics of the situation. You got REAL with her.

5) She fed you, too... priceless.

6) Great job of pacing her reality. She wasn't ready at first, but you backed off and took the patient, Alpha Man route. Very good.

You see, you don't need to hurry a woman into bed. Just know that eventually she will - she MUST - sleep with you. It doesn't have to be the first night. But sometimes that's the way it all works out.

7) Probably most important was your acknowledgment of the power of your attitude as you stated in your last sentence:

"accepting the consequences of the risk of approaching in advance which was them possibly not being interested"

Once you fully and emotionally accept this possible outcome, you are then set f-r-e-e to do whatever your heart desires, because you are no longer under the restraints of the female social Matrix.

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